Topics of the Month

Each month, in addition to their normal posts, the TLL Authors are given 1-3 topics to write about. They can chose to take a traditional route on the topic, or give it a bit of their own personal twist. If you’re not an author and want to write on one of these topic please click here.

July 2010

1. Pets: It’s a known fact that lesbians love their pets. Post a picture of yours and share with the TLL readers why he or she or they are the best!
2. Current Events: Tackle a topic currently in the headlines and write about it essay style

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Gaysi is meant for gay desis & transgendered desis of all genders and at all stages of being out or being in the closet and also for our allies from the straight world. It’s a place for fiction, news, events and even the mundane. It is more relevant to women, I’ll admit, but boys are welcome!

Gaysi Family was started to provide a voice and a safe space to desis who identify as LGBT. What began as a simple idea of sharing stories about what it meant to be gay and desi (gaysi!) has evolved into a space with multiple authors and multiple sections and traffic from around the world.

We, here at Gaysi Family, provide a forum for gaysis with something to say, whether it’s personal opinions, coming out stories, poems, erotic fiction, book reviews, movie reviews, event notices or anything at all that is related to being gaysi.

In addition, we also interview published authors, activists that work towards our cause and media personalities.

New blogs will be featured around the 1st and 15th of each month. Do you have a blog you would like to see as a TLL Editor’s Pick? Is there a new blog out there written by a lesbian that you think TLL should check out? Send us your suggestions!

Jul
2010
23

***A PREGNANT LESBIAN MUM***

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I HAVE JOINED THIS WEBSITE PURELY FOR THIS POST I AM ABOUT TO WRITE BECAUSE I FEEL LIKE THERE IS NOT ENOUGH INFO,ADVICE OR SUPPORT OUT THERE!

My name is Sophie, i’m 24 years old and realised i was a lesbian at the age of 13/14. I have been with my fiancee Kayleigh for nearly four years now. We have a little girl 2 1/2 yrs old, and we both know how so very lucky we are to have been able to start a family together! But this is where the problem lies.

kayleigh and i decided to start a family but knew it would be hard. we sat and thought of all the ays we could do this and realised that ivf would be way too expensive for us, although if it came down to it, i know that we would have gone to any lengths to be able to have our little girl. but we were fortunate enough to have a freind that offered his uses to us! so there we were, in our bedroom, kayleigh with a syringe in her hand and me laid down on the bed! we tried to make it romantic, but im afraid to say that it really was the most disgusting, awkward and embarrassing thing i’ve had to do! it was very, “L word” style legs up and everything! Awful! but so worth it.

so there was where it all started. we had mixed reactions from friends and family some accepted it like it happens every day ( which was great!) then others were either confused (understandable) as to how we did it, and very curious, or was not very happy about it and ouldnt get their heads round it. which i must say now, did not last very long. we had a few problems with medical staff such as health visitors calling kayleigh ” dad” or “friend” but we politely corrected people and things were good.

we also went on telly, the day i was due on a debate show. subject : “does a child need a father?”

Our arguement was that we feel that children dont really need a father figure, but a male role model is essential in any childs life. our little girl has 3 grandads and three great-grandads she also has an uncle, she is very lucky in this way. she idolises two of her grandads and see them as her dominant male role models.

Now im pregnant again! same sperm donor. And this time we have had no negativity. i do feel like things like this are getting more accepted. BUT my only problem is there are not enough stories out there!

has anyone ever google’d “pregnant lesbian” ? oh my god, just dont do it! i was horrified! but my point is, i couldnt find anything on the internet about gay couples having children together and i dont know anyone in the same kind of situation! i know lesbian couple who have got together and one of them already had children, but none that have actually started a family together.

I FEEL LIKE THE ONLY PREGNANT LESBIAN OUT THERE!

there must be some out there somewhere!? i read all the stupid pregnancy magazines and read things like “get “him” to give you a massage” or “daddy” this and “daddy” that. which would be fine if i could find something that was a little more relative to my life aswell as the “norm”

i dont know maybe im being silly but it would just be nice to know someone else who has done the same thing.

Putting all that aside, i have the perfect family and i know im lucky to have this as there are so many lesbians and gay men out there who want to have children and dont have the facilities. Alot of our friends have come up to us said asked how we did it and that they really want children with their partners. And all we can say is that there is no secret to it, theres no knack, we were just lucky to have someone who would help us!

thanks for listening guys

sophie

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Jul
2010
21

TLL Q & A Advice Panel Installment #73

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Name: Tiffany
Age: N/A
Location: Somewhere between wrong and right!

QUESTION:

Alright girls help me out here! I need to know if I’m way out of my gourd on this one! I’m literally ready to turn my life upside down for a woman that is 23 yrs my senior! Psshh, no problem right? Well, she also doesn’t even know I exist, she lives in a completely different state, she’s recently divorced (from a man, no kids), and she is very successful and respected in her career which is the film industry (NO, not porn!). But amazingly enough I have an opportunity to get to know her..her being somewhat of a mentor to me, I guess. I need to know if I should follow my heart on this one and take a really, really, next to impossible chance?? Or am I just being crazy?

Read the TLL Advice Panelists answers after the jump…

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Jul
2010
20

TLL Q & A Advice Panel Installment #72

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Name: Ana B
Age: 29
Location: Detroit

QUESTION:

I am 29 years old and have been for over 2 years now fantasizing about being with another woman. I have always led a straight life style, but have been attracted to women in the last few years. Lately, I can’t help my wondering eyes. Long ago, I have come to terms with my feelings in the sense that I allowed myself to be attracted (and to look when nobody would notice), but I never acted on my feelings. I do not think I can do that much longer. I believe I would like to go out on a date with a woman. And this is where I get stuck–I am fairly good-looking and am always approached by men. NEVER have I been approached by another woman. Also, I NEVER know if a woman is gay or not. So, the situation to me pretty much seems hopeless. I do not know how to get rid of the men, so I can start attracting the women, nor do I know which women are potentially interested. As I am somewhat sporty, I find feminine women attractive. So, how can I tell if a woman is gay? And how in the world do I “get out there”? And where is “out there”, anyhow?

Read the TLL Advice Panelists answers after the jump…

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Jul
2010
15

TLL Adult Review: Eroscillator 2 Plus

I’d like to thank Kama Sutra Closet for sponsoring this review of the Eroscillator 2 Plus. The Eroscillator is something you’ve probably heard of before. It’s a large-ish plug-in sex toy that doesn’t vibrate, but rather oscillates. It’s got a number of attachments, each of which feel different. If you’re looking for something stronger than the Eroscillator 2 Plus, Kama Sutra Closet also offers a more powerful model, the Eroscillator 2 Top Deluxe.

The Eroscillator is pretty darned awesome for a number of reasons. Here are some of those reasons:

  • Eroscillator is both powerful and gentle at the same time. It oscillates, which means it doesn’t vibrate. To picture it, think of how your fan oscillates, back and forth. It’s kind of like that, but minuscule, kind of circular movements. Therefore, it actually works best if you aren’t applying much pressure to your clit with it. It seems counterproductive, but using less pressure gives more intense sensations.
  • Eroscillator has a wide variety of attachments that come with it or are available for purchase later.
  • It’s lightweight.
  • It comes with a 12 foot power cord, meaning you never have to worry about running out of battery power, and the cord is plenty long enough even if your bed isn’t near an outlet.

Mine came with three attachments, and I was sent an additional two for a total of five. I am unsure what the material is that the heads are made of, but they seem varied. Some heads are particularly soft, some are kind of siliconey, and others seem like TPR. Eroscillator says they are body safe and hygienic, and all the heads are completely washable. However, I’d definitely have my own heads if I was sharing the power base with another person.

1. Grapes & Cockscomb(tm).

I shit you not. It is described thusly: “With a collection of smooth mini grapes on one side and a crenulated ridge on the other, the Grapes & Cockscomb attachment provides a deeply pleasurable stimulation of the labia and clitoris.”

This is one of my favorite attachments. It’s made from a semi-firm material (Silicone coated TPR, according to Eroscillator’s site) and the texture is interesting and it feels really good, but if I end up using too much pressure (my own fault) I end up feeling sore because of the shapes on the head.

It can be used on either side, and I prefer the “grapes” side. Someone who likes texture and interesting sensations on their clit would like this, as it delivers exactly that and isn’t so soft or long that it mutes the power of the oscillations.

2. Ball & Cup(tm).

True to the description: “The Ball & Cup attachment is crafted for gentle sensual stimulation of the clitoris and nipples.”

I think this one is probably my favorite.

I really do love this one. It’s an attachment made of firm material and I enjoy just letting the cup… you know, cup my clit, but I like dragging it slowly over it.

The reverse side of the cup feels nice as well. The firmer material transmits vibration very well.

3. French Legionnaire’s Moustache(R). Oh-ho-ho! It’s a strange one: “The French Legionnaire’s Moustache your ultimate and most sophisticated discovery in and outside your vagina.”

Right, okay. Well, that may be, but the bristles felt weird on my clit and I think it’s strange. I actually was doing it wrong, letting the moustaches touch my labia, when Epiphora told me to let the bristles rest against my clit. When I told her that was weird, she said to use more lube. When I added more lube, I stupidly turned it on while holding it in front of my face and got lube in my eye. Thanks, Piph.

I don’t care for it, but someone certainly might love it. I just can’t get past the weirdness and my own paranoia about masturbating with brushes. Also, the vibrations off the bristles are weak and unusual at best.

4. Seven Pearls of the Orient(R). This one’s on the strange side too: “The Seven Pearls of the Orient head was specially developed for vaginal and anal stimulation and penetration.”

I wouldn’t use this anally, just because I wouldn’t want the attachment to come off (though it does attach quite securely), and I find it rather small for vaginal use.

I’m really not a fan of it, and find it’s on the loud side and is difficult to focus the sensations with.

It’s my feeling that though this is a firm material, the size of it lessens the vibrations. I’m actually not sure why the vibrations seem less with it, but that’s my best guess.

5. Ultra-Soft Finger Tip(tm). I like this one: “The Ultra Soft Finger Tip is a marvel of comfort and technology. It provides the softest, most pleasant and sensual touch thanks to its high-tech Swiss made medical silicone elastomer. Ultrasonically welded for perfect water tightness.”

As it’s not a pure silicone, this is one you’ll want to dedicate to one person. It’s not as strong as some of the firmer attachments, but it feels really deliciously soft, like a pillow for your clit. But it oscillates. However, as it does not transmit oscillation as well as a firmer material, I have to be very aroused to get off with this head. However, when I do use it and get off, it’s very much worthwhile.

The Eroscillator, overall, is not my favorite toy. I still have to say that my go-to toy is the Form 2, though the Eroscillator is definitely in my top three vibrating toys. It’s a very good toy, and one that is proven to work for a majority of women. I think oscillation may be very close to how some women masturbate manually, rubbing with a finger or two in a circular motion. It’s incredibly difficult to get up any speed doing this, and if you do it’s really easy to use a lot of pressure and end up numb. I’m not saying the Eroscillator is like using your hand, it’s definitely way more intense and pleasant, but the motion is sort of reminiscent of that kind of motion, in my opinion.

I think the Eroscillator would be best suited to someone who does not like a lot of pressure on their clitoris, yet still wants a lot of power in a vibrator. It’s pricey, yes, but if it’s defective you can contact the manufacturer within one year to replace a defective unit. Eroscillator is long, yet lightweight and with a very long, sturdy power cable that plugs into any outlet (two prong). It’s also very obvious that it’s a high quality product, with no flimsy parts or the like. This toy would be ideal for someone who wants to buy one toy (with the option of attachments later) and doesn’t want to worry about it again.

Thanks again to the kind folks at Kama Sutra Closet for letting me review the Eroscillator 2 Plus. If you’re waffling about power, though, I’d recommend popping for the Eroscillator 2 Top Deluxe model, which has a more powerful motor and additional attachments standard.

Jul
2010
15

My first girlfirend

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Ever since I was a small girl I always fantasized about having sex with other women. By the time high school came around my feelings grew stronger and stronger…but this isnt a coming out story… it is about my first girlfriend. I waited till I was 18. After having a boyfriend I couldn;t hold it in much longer and had to tell him that I had no feelings towards him. It wasn;t that he was a bad person, he actually treated me like a princess, but I just wasn;t physically attracted to him. So one day on myspace I find this girl who is on my friends list but have never talked to. It just so happened that she was online at the same time I was. We instantly had a connection. I was 18, femme, hispanic/white and she was 27, white, jewish (what is funny is that another one of my gf;s after ended up being Jewish also, but did not make the connection until recently. Of course i was nervous at first, but she was the exact opposite and very confident so it gave me the opportunity to explore my lesbian wild side, which completely took over me. Today, I am a stud. I actually started slowly transitioning to a stud in the ary, and now rarely don female clothes, although I do still wear them sometimes when I go visit my ex. One day We are talking and I tell her that I am both attracted to studs and femmes. As long as they have the right personality and is 100% female, it doesnt matter what she dresses like because when you take her clothes off she is still going to have those female parts. So she the tells me that she can;t imagine herself doing that and that she doesnt see how other people can do it. I then remind her that (when I am not in a relationship of course…I highly frown upon cheating, and to this day she has remained a good friend with benefits) I am a stud, actually, more of a stud than her, and she has sex with me all the time. She then replies…”Well, it’s different between us.” and when i asked her why she can never give me a straight answer and to this day i still remain the first and only stud she has sex with. Why this is? I have no idea. Maybe somebody here can help explain this to me. But even though we have argued and physically fought… to this day she has remained my longest friend…the only ex for that matter that is still my friend.

Guest Post Sent In From: Sam M
Email:
morasarmy@yahoo.com
Age: 21
Location: Miami, FL

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