2004
Lesbians?
This is just a copy from my own Journal, until I can come up with something inspirational to write! Wondered what you have to say about this?
Seen as its my first post i’l give you a little info. My name is Jo, im 21 and I live in Cambridge UK. I’ve been with my girlfriend Fran for 4 years now.
We both have disability’s and i guess this is what sparked of the short pice im about to put in here.
My family always say to me, ‘why are all your friends gay or disabled?’. And what i have written, I think explains some of that. Please for give poor spelling and grammar, my dyslexia leaves me with a reading age of 11 and spelling age of 9!
Would love to hear your opinions 
“There funny people, lesbians, not all of them, like not all men are bastards (just most of them) 
Its true when people joke about friendship being forplay for lesbians, its hard you know. Straight people walk in to a bar, and the chances are they have a choice most people in the room, even the ones who are in relationships.
If I walk in to a bar, I expect to meet no one who is a lesbian, may be on or tw0 Bi girls but i know im not going to take home numbers, let alone a person. I have gay friends who know other gay people and we often go out as a community. With in that community you find an almost insestual practice, people tend to date with in that group and its not that often that ‘fresh blood’ is brought in. Its hard to know that, that persons been with her and she’s slept with her ex .. but thats the only way lesbians meet other lesbians with out being happy to go clubbing and take strangers home.
Straight people have a chance to meet perspective partners in most settings, work, outings with random groups, even the people next door!Its sad that every leabian you meet is a potential shag/partner before a potential friend. Not every one works that way, although i see it more often than not. Keeping a ‘normal’ friendship group, full of a range of people can be hard if your looking for a relationship.
Having said all that, I personaly enjoy the Lesbian community and believe there are bad asspects to most groups.
I love my friends very much too!”
by Joey
HI Jo!
This is all very true. I always used to imagine how easy it would be if we all had our sexualities tattoed on our foreheads!
For many years I had no friends that identified as “lesbian” When I started the organization that I run here in Michigan all of that changed. Now my whole life is filled with lesbians. They are all over I tell ya!!! Back then I didn’t know what I was missing nor what I was getting myself into.
It is very hard to meet people you are right. Many of my straight friends ask me… “why do you only go to gay bars now? Why do you only hang out with lesbians?” I respond by telling them to imagine themselves in a giant stadium filled to capacity. In this stadium they have to find the man of there dreams. Then I tell them to imagine themselves in a bookstore with only a few people in it and same thing goes…find the man of your dreams. Then I ask them which challange they would rather take.
Diversity in life is good, but so is being surrounded by those we have things in common with.