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I never really though of this topic this way. It was a very interesting way to look at it. I myself have never fallen in love with a woman who identified as “butch” And thinking about it now, I can actually remember being terrified of butch women when I first came out.

I love women. I have fallen in love with femme womem up until this point of my life. But what I like about me is that I would never rule anyone out. Love is love. We can’t make it happen, it just does. And personally I can’t wait to meet the love of my life. It doesn’t matter to me what form she is in.

Hello
Though I enjoyed reading your thoughts on this subject I have to point out my own opinion.
I think that your subject and statements only apply to Straight women. Did you mean them to? I hope so.
As a lesbian, I am attracted to both femmes and butch’s. Proudly, I have been a few of both. I believe that a butch woman is almost more beautiful than a femme woman because most butch women do not care what anyone else thinks, know who they are and what they want, and do not conform to any one stereotype (although there are exceptions to every rule, and there are some femmes who have these atributes as well).
I enjoyed reading your piece.
Thank you.

-laguz_godin

Ummm…what I like about women is their femininity. If I wanted someone masculine, I could be with a man.

This isn’t to say that I don’t find some butch women attractive — and flipside, some femme women are very unattractive. It’s all about the individual.

BUT: as for butches that view them selves as, essentially men without a dick — not interested.

Masculinity/femininity isn’t just how one looks or behaves — it’s a mind-set that allows or disallows certain attidudes and behaviors. I embrace all parts of myself, and wish the same for other women.

I can be mechanically competent, outspoken, opinionated, flirty, silly, sly, smart, pretty, ugly, apathetic — you name it. I may not wear a skirt, but I do wear makeup. I swagger when I walk, but I like someone to carry me away. Keep your strap-on nearby, I’ll be using it — on you. I’m not interested in your bulging jeans.

Not all butch women are ugly. I can think of quite a few I’m hot for. What concerns me is the invisibility femme women suffer from in the Lesbian community. Butch=visible, but femme=what? Risky? Uncommitted? Straight — or worse, blending in with straights?

I agree there is a fear of female masculinity — but I wish we could call it something else less awkward. I also think there’s a corollary fear of wholly embracing your feminine self. Feminine means weak, frail — a lot of negatives to some people in our community. Instead of seeing oneself as masculine or feminine, why not just enjoy the fact that you can be a strong, competent woman?

Labels are for soup cans. What’s a mullet for?

Ready to argue with the themes of education-all. All the same, you can very well write about it

I have to say I love this post. It encompasses a lot of how I feel from the opposite side of the fence, as someone who appreciates FULLY female masculinity.

I like this post as well. I’ve gone through a great deal of pain in my life simply because of that kind of thinking. I’m a woman, and I used to hate that fact because I was taught that to be masculine and a woman is disgusting, when it’s not at all.
I went through a bout of thinking I was transgender because from a young age I internalized that way of thinking. To this day I really don’t like the word “butch,” and probably never will. But again, I’m not one for labels.
As I said, I am a woman in how I see the world and how I interact with it. But I’m not simply a woman. I only recently realized it’s not a abomination to actually like feeling masculine and strong in soft way, AND be a woman.

I understand where you’re coming from but why would you want a masculine woman when you can have a man? Serious question. Because isn’t that whole point of being lesbian woman liking woman? and female traits? I would question a person’s sexuality who says they like masculine woman. Maybe I’m wrong but it doesn’t make sense to me. I don’t know…

well Im a girly girl who dont like man at all and love masculine girls and I feel more protected with a masculine girl than with a boy it sounds crazy for some people.. but I have always felt this way. Is not the same a man and a masculine woman! greetins from spain!

I am a female…I wear makeup…a little and do my hair…but, I like having a strong body, I like my muscles and I work out to stay strong and fit. I like the strength I have to hold my woman close, to lift her when I need/want to. I play women’s professional football – tackle. I don’t do dresses/heels…I like my jeans and button up shirts with my tank shirts…yes, I wear boxer underware and don’t care what other people think. Would you call me masculine? I swagger when I walk and I walk my talk. This is who I am….period.

Humans are made of a female and a male so we are both. Sadly some people close off part of themselves.

Playing sports is not masculine, cooking is not feminine, etc. That is just garbage that some hetero-males need to separate themselves from women. Wonder how come the things that is deemed as masculine has to do with physical or mental ability whereas what is deemed as feminine is things that some men don’t want to do.

As far as clothing goes, what difference does it make what people wear. Hetero-males made the rules about that because they want to be able to know from a distance if a person is a female or male. They want to know that the person with the shapely behind and long hair actually belong to a woman.

I saw a tv documentary where White people went into a forest where Black people lived. The Black people didn’t wear clothing. One of the Black men casually looked inside the t-shirt of one of the visitors to see if there were breast or not. The person had breast and that satisfied the native. The White visitors gave the natives shirts to cover their nudity because they were uncomfortable. Actually the White men were probably uncomfortable about the White woman looking at the nude Black men. So much for being civilized.

Why is it an issue when some lesbians have short hair, wear pants and like playing sports, etc? Some straight females have short hair, wear pants and like playing sports, etc.

Females have eggs and males have sperm. That has to do with making babies and has nothing to do with what a female and male will like doing or like wearing. Each person can be soft and strong. It doesn’t make a female masculine because she is a capable person. It’s silly to think that a female wearing boxers or a hard hat is masculine. A female is a female unless she self identifies other than female. The clothing, job, hair etc doesn’t make her a man.

Too many people within the LGBT community still go by the rules and concepts set up by hetero-males.