2004
only fools don’t change their minds…
I’ve spent my life being proved wrong… and I guess each lesson learned left me with a more open mind…
my gf’s dad says of me “she’s always looking for an angle… I like that” because whenever I’m confronted to the saddest or most frustrating situation, I always end up finding a new way to look at it in a more positive light, or at least have a laugh at it… I find it better to poke fun at myself or at things that frustrate me instead of dwelling into rage or sadness which never leads to anything good…
when I was young, I’ve always hated my home… for no particular reason other than feeling different… didn’t know why but I just couldn’t wait to get outta there…
I also hated my country… always thought Canada was at the USA’s mercy… just that cute lil puppy always obeying to its master… never having much of a brain, just agreeing to whatever the USA wanted without questionning it… so I always admired the americans, and always wanted to move there for as long as I can remember…
I wasn’t stupid enough to move out of the house at any costs… so instead of being the first one moving out, I’m the only one still living here… which ended up getting me much more closer to my parents and even my sibblings ever since I did my coming out… and now I’m slowly laying the grounds for my gf to move here so we can catch our breath before moving out on our own… my folks are more like roommates to me and they love my gf, so even though we have no intentions of living home for an extended period of time, still comforting to know we won’t be pressured to get everything together the moment she gets here…
it just seemed like a logical move, at least temporarily since it would take much longer for me to get accepted to the USA than for her to get accepted here… especially since immigration laws have been changed to include same sex partners… while the USA still think I’m some STD affected alien they fear I’d be contamining their people…
and now just last thursday, the supreme court ruled in favor of same sex marriages… so the federal government will have to come up with a law allowing same sex couples to get married… and now what seemed like a temporary move seems more and more permanent… I still have dreams of moving in the USA and living there with my gf… but the USA I’m dreaming of is starting to look more and more like Canada… cause the more time passes, the prouder I am of being canadian… cause at least here I am accepted for who I am… at least here I have rights, even when my gf will move here, I’ll be able to put her on my insurances at work can even put her as the beneficiary of my life insurance if I wish to do so… we could build a family together without fearing whoever didn’t bear the children won’t have any rights if the mother dies…
I don’t feel like some lower class citizen anymore… not sure if I’m starting to think more of Canada, or less of the USA… maybe a little of both…
one thing is for sure, as much as I want my gf to live close to her parents and as much as I want us to eventually move back to Chicago, I think we’ll have to wait a little to give time to the USA to change a little…. maybe Canada’s open mindness could rub off on them a lil?!? I sure hope it will…
I’m glad by the end of that entry you had softened up a bit on Canada, because it is very near and dear to my heart. And for all the privileges that all its citizens receive, not just gays and lesbians, we should all count ourselves lucky. It’s almost impossible for you to still be saying that Canada could possibly be at the US’s mercy, especially after the controversy over the war in Iraq…do you know that potential American soldiers are coming here to seek refugee status? And after writing this sentence:
“he USA still think I’m some STD affected alien they fear I’d be contamining their people…” you’d think you would be more appreciate of what we have here!
I like your title…and I totally agree. Only a fool would get stuck on their beliefs. It’s a bit strange to think that we are constantly reappraising our beliefs to make room for new information, but I guess it’s something we have to do, otherwise that’s how all the ignorant prejuidices of the world are formed. And objectively, no one wants any part of that!
I wish you and your gf tonnes of luck, and I do hope that the US begins to be more accepting of all their citizens…not so you can move there, but so that it will be better for the people who have to live there!
J