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I’ve avoided this blog for a week or so now so as to force myself not to throw my hat in the ring, but blast if I’m not a stubborn b*tch that needs to have my say…

Ok — bisexuals… here are my thoughts.

I believe that we are all “one way or the other”… meaning, of course, that we are either straight or gay. Now, I also believe that we can be straight and “hop the fence occassionally” or gay and “hop the fence occassionally”. But our “base”, if you will (hell even if you won’t) is gay or straight. One gender that you are naturally drawn to more often than not…. with the occassional exceptions.

Now — what bothers me about identifying as wholly bisexual is that I think this designation muddies the waters for the rest of the community. It reeks of indecision and piggishness. Whether or not it really is indecisive or piggish, of course I would not know. But it’s like an out and I despise outs. “Oh yes, I’m gay — but if this all gets too hard for me — I’m really straight”… kinda out.

Is this annoyance because so often I hear of bisexuals who are just bored housewives looking for a thrill before hubby comes home with the bacon? Maybe.

Is this annoyance because I hear of so many bisexuals who are really closeted gay men in marriages of convenience? Perhaps.

Truth is, I don’t know… nor will I pretend to. I just know that I’ve never met any self-proclaimed 45 year old bisexuals (save for the married ones)…

so I feel like it’s a phase…

it’s the “finding myself” phase…

it’s the “too afraid to commit to the gay side because of the shit that comes with it” phase….

or the “gee I’m in college let me rebel against EVERYTHING including who mommy and daddy expect me to have sex with for 4 years then pretend this never happened afterwards” phase (I’ve had many friends in this particular category).

But because I believe in live and let live… I do not come out against such a categorization of oneself… why? Not really my business, is it…?

…but then you went and asked…………

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