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I don’t make judgements on who you are capable of loving. Personally, I don’t care. But when I’m in love with a woman, and we’re together, I don’t want her checking men out. Sorry, that’s just not cool with me. I also don’t want to be cheated on (and no, I am not saying bisexuals cheat! So pay closer attention). I don’t want to be cheated on by anyone, and yes we are all (lesbians, bisexuals, straights, trans, everything in between, etc) capable of cheating.

I have had numerous girl-friends who were bi-curious. I have had numerous bisexual friends. I have only had two bisexual male friends. I have had one very confused, not sure if she was a lesbian or a bisexual, girlfriend. Right now my girlfriend is so gay we joke about it. Partly because she’s not out of her closet yet. It’s like Dana in The L Word “when you hide that [ you're gay] you hide the very best parts of you.”

Moving on… I have had one bisexual…fling, for lack of a better word, meaning that the girl I was “friends with benefits” with was bisexual. She flirted with both women and guys right in front of me. I hated that. I didn’t mind her flirting with girls so much because after she was done she’d turn those strawberry lips on me and I’d turn into a puddle of lust. I minded the men. The whole time I was “with her” she’d flirt/check out guys right in front of me. It made me sick. So yes, bisexual women could be a problem, but I also believe that if she truly loves you, and is committed to your relationship than you should have no problems with her identity, because it won’t matter. All that will matter is that you love each other, for now, for months, for years, for however long you’re together.

The only thing about being bisexual , that I have a problem with, is that you better be bisexual for the right reasons. It should not be about how much sex you can get and from where. It should be about your capacity to LOVE. Love doesn’t come easy and it doesn’t come cheap, but when you’ve found it, hold on with both hands. It’s like what they say about dreams.. “Dreams aren’t perfect…they come true, not free.”

-L