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i hadn’t had to come out to anyone until this past year. It felt odd to feel odd about it, just ’cause i thought everybody always knew. But this past December, things got kind of carried away at work. I had a male colleague of mine harassing me, knowing all along that i like women. In a way, i felt he was pushing me into announcing my gayhood to the world, when AGAIN, i’ve nvr had to do it. Well anyhow, the stupid look on his face was almost threatning, daring me to say a word. He was a complete jerk about it. showed me magazines of naked women, verbally and very explicitly talked about his fantasies and how nice it’d be to have me and whomever…it was all so uncomfortable…many times i even considered quitting. When my (female) employer began encouraging his passes at me (he was much more formal about his interest in me when in her presence), saying i should “give him a chance,” i EXPLODED! there is no way i could ever be with him because i am GAY. i had mixed feelings about “coming out” to my employer because she has been a great supporter of mine and has helped me beyond what her “position” really calls for. also, for some reason, i knew for a fact she held me at some special regard, and as selfish as this may sound, perhaps because only a few others have been as interested, i feared losing that care and respect. so even if i did suspect deep down she knew, and much like mother just wanted to “hook me up” and see if i’d “get over it,” i didn’t really think it was necessary to confirm, until this very unfortunate situation. The harassment is STILL going on. I avoid the gentleman at all costs and completely make an ASS of him at every opportunity i can…only NOW, i do it so everybody can hear it, so he KNOWS his fake demeanor is what really SHOULD BE OUT OF THE CLOSET. And OH YES, my employer and the rest of the crew have been very accepting. i guess my point is, “being or coming out” is not the most important…’cause even for those who might not understand me for the GAY WOMAN THAT I AM, there’s still room for love and affection if they respect me. as for the BASTARD, i’ve since locked him in the closet he had me in. dare him open a playboy in front of me or talk about his fantasies! i announce it to the ENTIRE OFFICE.