2005
Ranting on …Being "out" with a homophobic roommate
Tonight my roommate and I got into a conversation about gay marriage. We both agreed that a constitutional amendment against it was a Very Bad Idea. Well… she never said it was a bad idea, she just said it would never happen. Throughout the conversation, she made it clear that Homosexuality = WRONG, which is no surprise to me (we have been living together for almost a year, after all). But then, the kicker.
“You know, if gays are allowed to get married, then what is to stop people twenty years later from saying ‘Well, I can marry a man and I can marry a woman, why can’t I marry both at the same time? Or many women at once? Or my dog?” To which I responded…
“You aren’t serious….. are you?”
And she was. The conversation ended with me smacking her with my plastic ruler and yelling “BAD REPUBLICAN. BAD! BAD!!” But failing to come up with a proper way of explaining that gay marriage does not equal polygamy does not equal bestiality. When I brought up interracial marriage, she said that marriage is defined simply as a man and a woman, and the only reason “those fags” get caught up in the issue is because they want tax breaks.
Obviously the girl is not aware that I am bisexual. And I see no reason to tell her. It would make her less honest in these conversations, and she’s very clearly the kind of girl that would fear that I was watching her get undressed at night. And of course, one can never say “I’m bisexual, but don’t worry… you really aren’t hot AT ALL.” Because if they believe you… then they’re pissed. And if they don’t… they still think you’re watching them get undressed.
If she were to ask, I suppose I would tell the truth. I didn’t hide the pride button on my desk. I was honest about my opinions toward gay marriage. I have omitted my tales of ex-girlfriends when we talk about lovers, only mentioning the few men I’ve dated. Plus, she knows I have a boyfriend now. I give off very straight vibes.
The gay parts of me are screaming “WHAT ARE YOU DOING!? YOU ARE MOLDING TO WHAT THEY WANT YOU TO BE!” but the other, stronger, more frightened, quieter parts say “You aren’t hiding anything. You are keeping your relationship with your roommate civil. If you feel the need, come out the day you move before summer, you’ll never have to see her again. It would be an issue if you had a girlfriend, but you don’t. So just relax”.
Honestly…. GAY MARRIAGE = FUTURE LEGAL BESTIALITY!? I think not.
by katrina







wow…
i have one of those conversations too..my workmate said she’d rather have a philandering straight minister (health at that, we are talking abt malaysia’s chua soi lek sex tape) than an honest, hard working PLU minister in the cabinet.
they are twisted, sometimes.