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Heh… look at me posting twice in a month. Be still your heart.

I’m a lesbian mother. I had my two children before I realized my “true calling” (as I like to say) as a lesbian. I was also a teen mother (15 years old when I had my daughter).

For years it was kinda difficult being a mother and coming out. I don’t know about you, but when you come out it’s a myriad of clubbin’ and other such activities… hard to do when you have little ones.

I was jealous of my lez friends who didn’t have the ties that bound me.

I wasn’t able to do all of the fun things they were doing due to my responsibilities at home.

Now… many moons later, my children are older (the oldest graduating high school next year) and I’m thankful for the opportunity I’ve had to bring these beautiful people in this world and keep them.

They are part of what defines me. I am not Tina without them.

I’m even glad I had them young. When they are off on their own Karen and I will only be 40 and 38 (respectively). So watch out world, we will be on the loose! hehehehe

When my partner and I got together over 11 years ago she was walking into a ready-made family and took it all right in stride. For years I fought the notion that anyone could love them as much as I do. I insisted to myself that she was “putting up with them” to get to sleep with me.

Then after a few years went by I thought, either I’m phenomenal in bed or this chick really loves these kids! (I am still not readily discounting that phenomenal notion in its entirety lol).

There was a power struggle between my daughter and my partner for a few years there where they were at odds. My daughter doing the “you’re not my mother” thing and my partner thinking that I was too lenient on my daughter.

That was tough and we all got through it all with most of our body parts intact.

As for how the “outside world” deals with me as a lesbian mother, I gotta say I’ve never had a problem. The schools were always good about it and never tried to say that my partner couldn’t be involved just as much as I was.

Now that my entire circle of friends is getting older several are starting to think of having children of their own. I feel like the “veteran mother” of the bunch and look forward to imparting my vast knowledge of ways children try to put you in an early grave.

…yeah, motherhood rocks.