2005
6 degrees of separation
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I started a visual ‘web’ of my ex’s, their ex’s, one-night stands, short-term and long-term relationships. So what did I find out? Everyone knows one another in some way or form, and thanks to some I can now be linked to people in Sydney, Brisbane, England and New Zealand.
It all started with my first gf *drummergrrl* and I sharing many friends, most of which get to know one another through us and a social support group I once helped facilitate. I am thankful to say I didn’t go out with any of ‘those’ girls, even though I may have had crushes and shared drunken kisses.
Two and a half years later *drummergrrl* and I broke up and I found a *young lesbian who ‘persuaded’ me into a r’ship and I foolishly went into while still feeling confused about my first just-finished r’ship. Our r’ship lasted 10-moths but it was filled with anxiety for me which eventually lead to the end of the r’ship and has left me with regreat and an ex who still haunts me at present, 3 years on. At the time she developed a crush on a girl who is now going out with a good friend of mine *rash*.
I got a bit over the whole gf ‘idea’ so I went out a little bit and explored who I was and what I wanted. What I ended up with was a friend’s ex’s ex, let’s call her *mini*. The main part of this bit is that we had drunken sex and it fizzled out shortly after that. The problem behind it was *mini’s* ex and her were once very much in-love and were going to move in together and get married, or so we all thought! Before all of that *mini’s* gf went out with my good friend *rash*, who is now with my *young lesbian’s crush. Isn’t it confusing? The other side is that *mini’s* ex is now with a *lesbian professional* who once went out with my friend *wiser*. Got all of that? Now *wiser* is going out with a lovely lass, and they’ve been together for 3yrs – congratulations! Before that rant and before *young lesbian* and I met, *wiser* and her already knew one another, and my ex had a crush on her – not that it went anywhere however. Since I came along and broke *young lesbian’s* heart and became friends with *wiser* the two haven’t spoken – up until just recently and now it looks like my friedship with *wiser* is over.
Ok now my third gf, the next girl in my relationship equation, was a *Geelong chick* who was sporty, pierced and inked. I thought she was pretty spunky, but I new it wasn’t going to be for long, and another 10-months down the track I found *DK* who I really liked and we saw one another casually on and off.
I then moved briefly onto a young *tyke* who was 8-years my junior and who was a sort-of friend of mine. It was mostly drunken sex and didn’t last long. She had ex who went out with a *grrl* who then went out with the *tyke* but as a *boi*. A triangle was formed.
Little did I know that my *young lesbian ex had already ‘had her’ and again while *DK* and I were ‘casual’. Here was the first ‘triangle’. A couple months after my *Geelong chick* ex and I had broken up I found out she’d been cheating on me, and even later down the track I found out the girl she was seeing was *DK’s* friend’s new gf.
During this whole confusing time I also met a *dominatrix* who was my *young lesbian ex’s crush, not that i realized at the time, I had heared it mentioned but it didn’t click until it was too late. A drunken night later the *dominatrix* and I had drunken sex, and because the damage had already been done and my ex hated me, we sort of saw each other here and there. My bad!
Things got a little too heated and fucked when the *dominatrix* and *DK* became friends and dropped me and I have no idea if something happened, but if it did then that could possibly be another triangle!
I went up to Mardi Gras and met an *online* friend which kissed me before the parade. We eventually went out for 3-months, me flying and going by train up there and she coming down to Melbourne twice. The long distance r’ship wasn’t agreeing with me and I called it to a halt. At the same time as we broke up, *tyke* and her-then-gf *jellybean* broke up as well. She told me it was because *jellybean* was bashing her and major anger issues, but later I heared a different side to the story.
My *online* ex and I tried to work things out, trying to be friends who loved one another but couldn’t be together, but it didn’t work out. In the meantime I bumped into *jellybean* at the Glassy, she said ‘hi’ and I simply smiled. I used to dislike her because she was *tyke’s* gf and ex, but also because she was known in the scene as a bad girl and was renowed for sleeping around and dealing drugs. She hated me because I was once after her gf and other rumours about me that were travelling in the scene due to my *young lesbian ex who was spreading rumours about me.
The second time *jellybean* and I bumped into one another we spoke a little more, and that’s when I found out that *tyke’s* had cheated on her! That’s when I saw the light and realized that *tyke* was lying. In-between all of this I was still chatting to the *online* ex and there were feelings that we’d be getting back together. Also at the same time but a little back, I had also spoken to *tyke* previuosly to see if her gf/ex *jellybean* would be able to dj for an event i was helping to organise.
I got *jellybean’s* number and organized to meet her with some of the organizing committee to discuss the possibility of her dj’ing. We met, I introduced the committee and later her and I sat and talked for 2-hours. The next week we caught up to talk about her ideas and a general chat about the event. It ended up at her house and I stayed the night wihtout anything happening. The next morning *jellybean* and I kissed. I was very confused as I onced had hated her, and it had only been roughtly a month since my *online* and I had broken up. The next day after *jellybean* and I drove down to see a friend of her’s I got a phone call from my *online* ex wanting to ‘talk’. I told her I had kissed someone and that’s when her and I ended and *jellybean* and I began.
This is just the girls I’ve been with, I’ve got more six-degrees od separation if I go into my ex’s gf’s and ex’s and my frinds etc.
*All names have been changed or altered to keep the individuals privacy*
