2005
Reality
In every relationship you cherish the memories of when you first met. You remember butterflies in your stomach, spending every minute together absorbing all you can about you new found love. Reality is you also endure many trials and tribulations as well. No relationship is that fairy tale book love story with no problems or obstacles along the way. These obstacles range anywhere from previous psycho girl or psycho husbands to family members, or in a gay relationship SOCIETY. That is REALITY.
IN Kelly’s and my situation psycho girl and psycho husband join forces to destroy us. I remember psycho husband told me one time that he and Kelly had spent the night together or were out on a date. He said that Kelly was just playing me cause she was curious. They even went as far as to tell us that they were sleeping together. That one back fired when we told them we were happy for them for finding a new love and moving on. What could have been more prefect a relationship a psycho girl and psycho ex husband. After a couple of months they gave up and moved on.
Now how strong your love for each other or if the relationship was even met to be, all depends on the individuals. The love has to be stronger than the trials that you will have to face. Kelly was raised as an only child and her mother past away several years before we met each other. Her relationship with her father is shaky but she loves and respects him deeply. I on the other hand was raised by my mother with 2 sisters and 1 brother. We were raised to always take care of each other and be there for each other. Family is the most important thing in the world and the bond you carry as a family is very strong. Kelly would tell me that this a another thing that attracted her to me. I remember her telling me one time that she admired my mother and wanted to know what she said to make us four sisters and brother so close and love each so much and have such a strong bond between us. I would just smile because I really didn’t have a answer we just did.
Let me tell you about MOMS formally known as psycho mom. After overcoming the first obstacles with psycho girl and psycho husband we had psycho mom. Being a strong old fashion Hispanic women and not really understanding let alone accepting our gay relationship, she disapproved of it. I could never describe in words what test Kelly’s and my love for each other had to withstand. Moms met Kelly when she was with psycho husband and we all used to hang out and party all the time. But when Kelly decided to come out of the closet all the way to the living room with our relationship, moms became psycho moms. I truly love and respect Kelly for dealing with psycho moms and her threats, name calling, and disrespect. I remember telling Kelly “you don’t have to take that from her” all Kelly would say is “I love you and I know how much you love your moms and I would never disrespect her. There were several times that psycho moms almost brought out the psycho me, but Kelly would calm me down and say don’t do or say anything to her to make it worse. I told Kelly that if the tables were turned and her dad was treating me like psycho mom was treating her, it wouldn’t happen, I would have freaked to the level of freak no one could imagine.
I don’t remember when moms finally realized that no matter what she did or said Kelly and I were going to be together. Looking back on those days about 10 years ago, its hard to believe all that hell ever happened. The relationship that Kelly and moms have now is closer that any mother daughter bond. They get into this deep conversations for hours (God only knows what they talk about) Kelly has a relationship with my moms that I never really had because I was such a private person growing up. Moms tell Kelly that she is her daughter now and will always be her daughter. Which by the way has me a little confused ….. Does this mean that god forbid but if something happens to Kelly’s and my relationship I would be shit of out luck and have no moms? You know what moms tells me? Then I better make sure nothing happens to our relationship. (LOL)
Our family and friends all respect and admire our 13 year relationship, as moms says you two have raised 3 beautiful children, which you have taught family morals and to respect others as well as themselves. Moms always tells us she is proud of us and regardless what society thinks of our relationship how many heterosexuals can say they have accomplished what we have and at 13 years still are going strong.
AS for my sisters and brother they have always loved Kelly from day one, she has done so much for them and has been there when they needed someone to talk to. I am truly blessed to have such a close loving family, our kids, and my soul mate that’s REALITY as I know it.
