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It’s interesting to me…this whole point of exes remaining friends. I have to admit, the ex gf that I have remained friends with is the one I had the hardest time getting over. She was the alcoholic, the one I left…the one I wanted again more than anything in the world. For the first year and a half, we didn’t speak at all. Then out of the blue, she called me and it was heading back into the same thing…another relationship, again…the same one. It was what I wanted then. But, we’ve graduated into being friends. But she’s never had another gf, either and I’ve had 2 more. It’s in a good place now. Other exes of mine, I don’t talk to and have no interest in doing so.

Now my gf, that’s another issue. One of her best friends is her ex gf. When I first met my gf and learned of this…I thought it was strange. I have met her of course and love her too, though there are some underlying issues. I don’t believe that there is some deep seeded desire that has gone unquenched between them. There are things that have stuck around from their prior relationship that my gf has never addressed. Her ex constantly uses her for things…borrows money from her(though always pays it back in payments) and borrows things like tools, appliances, the truck. The woman has a key to the garage and has come and gone when she needs things. Recently, she did so without asking and my gf became upset and changed the lock. The ex has not figured this out yet. The ex appears quite greedy to me at times, wanting things for her or her daughter, who just got married. My gf has never raised these issues that bother her about the ex and it’s caused these things to go on and on. My gf even let the ex live with her for what was supposed to be 6 months, but turned into 2 years, after they were broken up.

So, in essence, it depends on how you define “friendship”. Can exes be your best friend, someone you can talk to about your current relationship, tell all your troubles to? My gf’s ex is like that…she and I have talked about my relationship and I have no worries that she is not over my gf, or vice versa. Is it possible? In some rare instances, I am sure it is. It takes practice and the right personalities….there are some things, you just never get over…..