Comments on: is gay a family thing?!? http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2006/09/06/is-gay-a-family-thing/ Sun, 06 Nov 2011 06:14:01 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Raven http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2006/09/06/is-gay-a-family-thing/comment-page-1/#comment-170 Raven Sun, 15 Oct 2006 15:04:00 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/?p=348#comment-170 Well, I wouldn't go as far as saying it purely runs in the family. Partially, yes, I do believe. But as far as I know, with the exception of one great-uncle on my mother's side that I *never* knew, I'm the only (out, at least) homosexual in my family.<br/><br/>It could also be nurture, though I would *never* put nurture above nature. We *are* born this way, for the most part. Nurture most likely has more a part of getting homosexuals out of the closet, though.<br/><br/>I've never been raised around homosexuality, but I live in a family of divorced wives and with all females (excluding my brother). I've never really had a prominent male figure in my life. I don't think I ever will. But because I never experienced gay-bashing in my family (excluding a few jokes from my father - who jokes about anything), I believe it was *considerably* easier for me to accept myself and come out.<br/><br/>In short, family does affect, but we'll never know the sole reason. I don't think there is. It's not that black and white.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('170','Raven'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('170','Raven','Well, I wouldn\'t go as far as saying it purely runs in the family. Partially, yes, I do believe. But as far as I know, with the exception of one great-uncle on my mother\'s side that I *never* knew, I\'m the only (out, at least) homosexual in my family.<br\/><br\/>It could also be nurture, though I would *never* put nurture above nature. We *are* born this way, for the most part. Nurture most likely has more a part of getting homosexuals out of the closet, though.<br\/><br\/>I\'ve never been raised around homosexuality, but I live in a family of divorced wives and with all females (excluding my brother). I\'ve never really had a prominent male figure in my life. I don\'t think I ever will. But because I never experienced gay-bashing in my family (excluding a few jokes from my father - who jokes about anything), I believe it was *considerably* easier for me to accept myself and come out.<br\/><br\/>In short, family does affect, but we\'ll never know the sole reason. I don\'t think there is. It\'s not that black and white.'); return false;">Quote</a></div> Well, I wouldn’t go as far as saying it purely runs in the family. Partially, yes, I do believe. But as far as I know, with the exception of one great-uncle on my mother’s side that I *never* knew, I’m the only (out, at least) homosexual in my family.

It could also be nurture, though I would *never* put nurture above nature. We *are* born this way, for the most part. Nurture most likely has more a part of getting homosexuals out of the closet, though.

I’ve never been raised around homosexuality, but I live in a family of divorced wives and with all females (excluding my brother). I’ve never really had a prominent male figure in my life. I don’t think I ever will. But because I never experienced gay-bashing in my family (excluding a few jokes from my father – who jokes about anything), I believe it was *considerably* easier for me to accept myself and come out.

In short, family does affect, but we’ll never know the sole reason. I don’t think there is. It’s not that black and white.

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]]> By: I'm a Girl, So What? http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2006/09/06/is-gay-a-family-thing/comment-page-1/#comment-139 I'm a Girl, So What? Wed, 13 Sep 2006 18:39:00 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/?p=348#comment-139 I'm not sure on the whole genetic thing...only because I have yet to hear about the gay-genome. That aside...Let me share this:<br/><br/>I have three brothers: Mike, Matt & Chris. Matt & Chris are twins. The twins are both gay and have been since they were 16ish (they're 28 now). Mike's straight, married, has a kid. I had a crush on my best friend in high school that I never acted on due to family life & small town stuff, and she was totally into guys (so I thought, now she swings). After a rash of failed relationships throughout my life (okay...maybe not a "rash") I found myself surrounded by gay men: my ex-husband, a guy I dated for a while. My brothers drag me out to the gay bars when I go home to visit. <br/><br/>I acted like the biggest homophobe that ever lived and up until this year refused to even think I could remotely be involved with a woman.<br/><br/>It's interesting when someone helps you step out of a cloud of denial to discover yourself...which happened after spending part of my summer with a woman.<br/><br/>I'm not used to the word "lesbian", but that's what and who I am.<br/><br/>And yeah, it appears to run in the family.<br/><br/>-Traci<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('139','I\'m a Girl, So What?'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('139','I\'m a Girl, So What?','I\'m not sure on the whole genetic thing...only because I have yet to hear about the gay-genome. That aside...Let me share this:<br\/><br\/>I have three brothers: Mike, Matt & Chris. Matt & Chris are twins. The twins are both gay and have been since they were 16ish (they\'re 28 now). Mike\'s straight, married, has a kid. I had a crush on my best friend in high school that I never acted on due to family life & small town stuff, and she was totally into guys (so I thought, now she swings). After a rash of failed relationships throughout my life (okay...maybe not a \"rash\") I found myself surrounded by gay men: my ex-husband, a guy I dated for a while. My brothers drag me out to the gay bars when I go home to visit. <br\/><br\/>I acted like the biggest homophobe that ever lived and up until this year refused to even think I could remotely be involved with a woman.<br\/><br\/>It\'s interesting when someone helps you step out of a cloud of denial to discover yourself...which happened after spending part of my summer with a woman.<br\/><br\/>I\'m not used to the word \"lesbian\", but that\'s what and who I am.<br\/><br\/>And yeah, it appears to run in the family.<br\/><br\/>-Traci'); return false;">Quote</a></div> I’m not sure on the whole genetic thing…only because I have yet to hear about the gay-genome. That aside…Let me share this:

I have three brothers: Mike, Matt & Chris. Matt & Chris are twins. The twins are both gay and have been since they were 16ish (they’re 28 now). Mike’s straight, married, has a kid. I had a crush on my best friend in high school that I never acted on due to family life & small town stuff, and she was totally into guys (so I thought, now she swings). After a rash of failed relationships throughout my life (okay…maybe not a “rash”) I found myself surrounded by gay men: my ex-husband, a guy I dated for a while. My brothers drag me out to the gay bars when I go home to visit.

I acted like the biggest homophobe that ever lived and up until this year refused to even think I could remotely be involved with a woman.

It’s interesting when someone helps you step out of a cloud of denial to discover yourself…which happened after spending part of my summer with a woman.

I’m not used to the word “lesbian”, but that’s what and who I am.

And yeah, it appears to run in the family.

-Traci

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]]> By: Angel Incognito http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2006/09/06/is-gay-a-family-thing/comment-page-1/#comment-133 Angel Incognito Wed, 06 Sep 2006 13:26:00 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/?p=348#comment-133 LOL -- being gay could totally be genetic. There are 6 of us (brothers and sisters) and 3 of us are gay. :)<br/><br/>Plus I have an aunt that died 2 years ago that I think was lez too (but no one ever knew it)... <br/><br/>I think it rocks. :)<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('133','Angel Incognito'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('133','Angel Incognito','LOL -- being gay could totally be genetic. There are 6 of us (brothers and sisters) and 3 of us are gay. :)<br\/><br\/>Plus I have an aunt that died 2 years ago that I think was lez too (but no one ever knew it)... <br\/><br\/>I think it rocks. :)'); return false;">Quote</a></div> LOL — being gay could totally be genetic. There are 6 of us (brothers and sisters) and 3 of us are gay. :)

Plus I have an aunt that died 2 years ago that I think was lez too (but no one ever knew it)…

I think it rocks. :)

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