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I respect individuals rights to live their lives as who they are defined by self. I do however remain baffled that within the community there is a need to identify as masculine or feminine. I despise the idea of defining ourselves based on society’s definition of gender. I enjoy and appreciate loving women as a woman. And what is the deal with strap-on’s pink or other color, is that how we define our intimate relationships, with a phallic symbol? Is the vagina a right of passage in being a woman? Bois and / or Lipstick Fems, Live your best lives to the fullest as You not a gender / genital definition.

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many know they like girls when they are young, i know i am a boy when i was young…

I guess I see humans as a spectrum rather than a multiple choice question. People should be allowed to experiment with their limits, to try more than one choice.
In my teen years I was a repressed butch (even in my own mind); as a young adult I began to make choices like no more dresses/heels/make-up EVER but retained a closeted mentality; now that I realize who I am I look back and know that if I had had the option of being a transman I would have jumped at it. That’s what I would have done then, but today I’m glad I didn’t and am comfortable just being a butch woman. I don’t want to jeopardize my health taking hormones at this late date, even though I’m getting more and more sexually active.

Yet for those who want to make that choice more power to them. They know themselves better than anyone else ever will and it is up to them to weigh the risks of their choices. In the lesbian world there is a lot of judgementalism and condescension. I’m kinda glad I missed that as a young person, when it would have hurt the most. I’m sure it makes those who survive it stronger … but don’t we get enough lack of understanding from our families?

Expression is harder for lesbians, I think, because you’ve got to be more conscious and careful of what *exactly* you’re expressing when you put on that white wifebeater and a men’s button-down with oil-stained jeans and an obviously male-ego’d belt buckle (if you live in Texas, anyway). I dress masculine, but I am by far not a butch nor wish to be viewed as such. Still, people assume me a man (both literally and figuratively) and steal from me my feminism that resounds strongly in my mind, actions and heart.

Anyway, I think I veered from the main point. Transexuality is just a step to reaching for the things we think will fulfill us. If it completes one person’s life, I find nothing wrong with it. Just like some people think college is the way to go for life and some disagree. Live and let live.