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Good luck to you and your wife!

“I wish more than anything that one night my wife and I could make love and out of that love making a beautiful baby would be the end result…..but I can’t and that really saddens me. Maybe it is useless being bitter, but I am.”

Amen. To not only have to go through so much more than most straight couples do, but *also* have the baby be genetically you and your partner’s offspring would be amazing. But I think the fact that homosexuals have to work so hard to have children, whether adopted, born through insemination or otherwise says a great deal (positively) about the particular individuals’ love, caring and dedication to their child or child-to-be. It’s inspiring.

Ok, it’s serious business and my heart goes out týa, but you wrote it so well! I mean to say, I laughed till I had to go wee! Just the visuals you gave us was like a short comedy movie, but getting back to serious again, :cough: Good luck and happy parenting!

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I agree with Raven above. It says a lot of positive things that you both are willing to go through all of that to conceive a beautiful baby. Good luck to you and your wife!

That’s true. What we’d give for just one night of miracle to be able to conceive with our partner. I can very much relate to what you are saying. *sigh*

Still, I wish you luck and I hope you and your wife become successful on your next try!

OMG! I know exactly what you mean. Me and my partner God it is such an extensive story but basically we were TTC the traditional way with an ex bf of hers well let’s just say that didn’t work out to well for various reasons. I too have a child he is 10. I am so frustrated by this process because because we have done it all, from charting to waiting to holding our breath to nothing for the past 6 or 7 months.

Now we are trying to figure out how to move forward as TTC can be expensive and the traditional way is the cheapest method. At the same time we actually want a donor who would not mind AI method and would not mind being involved with the child but allow us most of the parental rights. WHAT? So I’m at a complete lost as to how to move this process forward when most men either don’t want to be involved, or want to be involved too much i.e. be in relationship with my partner. WHAT? When really we want to raise our kids and allow are child to have a father. We don’t even know where to meet people or how to get this going. SIGH.

My partner and I do want to have children someday as well. It’s good to know what we are up against. For years (while strait) I did all I could to NOT get prego and when I find true love it’s made so much more difficult.

Best of Luck to all of you…You’ll get your baby when the time is just perfect.

I completely understand how you feel. Ive been wiht my partner for 4 years now and its seems completely impossible for us to have a baby with a donor. About a year ago she became pregnant from an affair and made it her decision to abort the pregnancy since I didnt know that they were makeing a baby… well to put in nice terms, now were trying to have a baby on our own and I will be the one pregnant this time but nothing is to show for it, Im really frustrated and about to go crazy how it was so easy for her, but when I want one its nothing but stress..Best if wishes to you.

my wife and i are finally pregnant! she is in her 12th week and it’s very exciting. we used two different known donors in the beginning, but switched to purchased, frozen, IUI sperm. the fresh sperm just wasn’t working, which is why we decided to switch. after one insemination visit to the fertility clinic and extreme observation, i told my wife i could do that. so i did my research, ordered the supplies and the following cycle we did an at-home IUI. i will share how we did it if anyone is interested. with the cost of sperm and the clinic charges we spent $1600 the first month because we did two inseminations that cycle. doing it ourselves, we incurred the cost of supplies (about $100 with enough for 7 inseminations) and sperm ($500) – much cheaper. it took us one cycle to get pregnant and my wife was so much more comfortable at home. it is very easy to do, especially if you are the very meticulous type. cheers and good luck to you all.

@Jen –
My wife recently became pregnant from stepping out on me. We have been together for 13 years and exclusive for 7 years. She already has two children and I have none. She is 32 and I am 30 I have been trying to conceive for about 5 years with no results. She wants to keep the baby. She says we will raise the baby together but the father wants to remain in the babies life. I accepted the fact that its already here but I am getting the feeling that she wants more than that with this guy. Im trying to be supportive and not be bitter towards her but its hard knowing that they got pregnant by accident so fast and I cant get pregnant at all on purpose. I dont want to lose my wife or my rights to a baby I feel is mine

@Frantzces – My partner and I have no clue where to even start or search for possible donors, we would like to hopefully do self insemination. She has a gay brother but she does not want to use him for fears of having to explain the uncle/father situation later on. This is the most nerve wrecking part for us, at least for now. This would be our first child, I am hoping things flow smoothly once we find a donor. *crossing fingers*

My wife and I are struggling on who should have a baby, I have 2 boys 14 and 7 and she has 1 boy thats 6. she tells me that she should have one and not me because I already have 2 kids, is this fair that I have to put my feelings to the side and not have any more kids because she waiting so far in life with her ex to have one.

My wife and I have been TTC for going on our 6th month. She has a 6 year old daughter and I have no children. My dream is to be a mother, although I feel that our 6 year old is mine as well, i wish to conceive and go through the entire process. The past two months my doctor has had me on Clomid. This will be my 3rd month on Clomid with a dose increase. We are using a known donor and doing it at home. This has been a very trying time in our marriage, both stressfull and frustrating. Our doctor keeps telling us that we are doing everything right and we just need to be patient. I think if it wasn’t such a process that being patient wouldnt be as hard…but lately I feel as if I might be getting slightly discouraged. I need some advice and any words of encouragement that I can get from couples who understand. Hearing from our straight friends that everything will happen when it is suppose to, meanwhile they are all popping kids out like crazy, just really isnt cutting it. I genuinely wish everyone who is TTC good luck! Please send all the good vibes and prayers our way we will be trying again in two weeks.

I’m very inspired by what you said. Although I am very young and so is my partner. We too want to conceive a child of our own one day down the road. I hope that by some miracle a new and easier way will come for the lesbian couples that are trying to conceive a child. My partner and I have gone through a lot of similar things in our lives and I would like to say that we met by faith and not through luck. I am very proud to have someone like her in my life. But conceiving a child will definitely be a rough patch in our lives but I know that we will get through it. Thanks for the inspiration. I hope all goes well with you.
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you wanna have my baby

Some hetero-couples can’t get pregnant having sex so not being able to impregnate your wife when having sex is not just a situation that lesbian couples deal with. What has being a lesbian to do with you being “bitter”. If you ask some hetero-women, they are probably also bitter that they can’t conceive and have to use other means.

You are a woman who has to do what is necessary to impregnate your wife. I would think it very romantic that my woman loved me enough to have a child with me and will endure whatever is necessary. Imagine how a man feels when he can’t impregnate his wife during sex. I doubt if men will go through the process that you have of trying to artificially impregnate their wives. So they probably wait outside because they don’t want to see a doctor (male or female) do the procedure needed to impregnate his wife. Just a thought.

so TTC … only on the second month of trying … but already feel like i’m on the emotional conception roller coaster. it felt like we are doing everything by the book: maya massage, OPK positive, two IUI in one cycle, gave up alcohol and caffeine … meditated and rubbed the belly … so much dreaming and hoping and wishing … all came crashing down when good ole aunt flow came. i was devastated. still am. now hesitant in being so hopeful and wishful and positive about this cycle … any words of encouragement?

I really hope you and your girl conceive hun! My girlfriend and I are rooting for you!!!

My gf & I are TTC & her brother decided he wants to be our “donor”. We are using the Instead cups for conception. We tried for the first time 5 days ago and its the craziest thing but i actually feel pregnant.. I think its to early to tell & mybe its just me wanting a baby so badly that i have these symptoms.. Im not sure.. Does anyone have any advice or been in this situation.. I need help. =/

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hi my name is Sandra and Im 35.My partner and i have been together for a year she is 34 and now we want a baby. I have 2 kids one 17 the other is 5 both beautiful girls basicly we want to know can we use one of her eggs along with one of mine to A. to have twins and B.she wants “her own blood” can that happen and if so where do we start?????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????? please help

Hi me and my partner have been together 4 and a half years. My partner has a 7 year old boy from a previous relationship with another woman but we want more than anything to have another baby together only this time it is me who wants to experience pregnancy. we have been trying for 8 months now and still no joy. We are using a known donor and doing it at home. does anybody have any advise which may help in concieving. Maybe we are doing it all wrong?

I wish you the best of luck from one lesbian couple to another . Were pretty much in the same situation trying to have a baby .. and its pretty messed up ! Its really ashamed that when two people love each other , they cant have that outcome .. i love my girlfriend so much and it hurts me that i cant give her this precious gift.

To MLM,

To MLM,
Sorry for the previous message my computer is kind of wacky. My partner and I, of five years decided to start the research into getting pregnant. We stumbled upon your post and honestly wanted to thank you for the idea of what we are up against and we especially liked the way you depict it. Pretty hilarious. I hope all went well for you and your partner and wish you the best of luck.

my partner and I have just started TTC we are in month 2. I want to thank all of you for your support and help. It is very hard and stressful even though we have just started. We have researched all the information on how to “get pregnant”. We are using a known donor with a contract we had drawn up on our terms. We figure “fresh semen” was the way to go. Still no baby but have faith it will happen. Stay strong for your partners help them through this as much as you can. I know its not easy but always have a positive attitude and support your spouse!! We have found several websites that have helped us to relax and calm down. I wish all of you the best luck in conceiving a baby!!!!

I was researching the IVF treatment when I come across this blog, Me and my partner are wanting to have a baby, Although she wants me to have her egg so it could be more like our baby. I never realised how exspensive it was going to be, I was more than happy to adopt a child instead as I wanted to give a child a second chance at life, (bare with me I know this is slightly off subject) but I dont think she would be happy adopting a child, as she well we both want a child of our own, Although we both want to get married first and with the cost of a wedding it would be years before we would have enough money for IVF, and reading this has show me how hard it can be as well.

I understand exactly were your coming from after all it would just amazing if we could make a baby of our own without all this hassel, so I am a bit bitter towards how much easier it is for straight people to have a baby, and from time to time how it can just happen acidently. I hve also tried talking to my parents about it, but my mum just doesnt realise how hard its gonna be, thank fully my partners parents are alot more supportive on it, and even said they would help us pay for it witch I think is just really nice of them.

All your comments have been a real help, and sorry for going off subject slightly there.

Good luck (:

Hello my gf and I are very interested in trying to concieve.. I have also thought about this process please tell me more??

Wow… I had no idea it was so tough. Thanks for the info. My wife and I are talking about having a baby and started researching the “how-to’s” last year. I didn’t realize it was going to be so difficult for two women to conceive. That’s ok! I’m up for the challenge! You’re right though, the visuals are pretty nasty especially since “man-juice” is involved *gags a bit* Eewwey. LoL! Good luck you you both though!

It seems as if most of you are doing insemination at home with a known donor and while I know that seems ideal, statistically speaking your chances are higher doing iui by a physician with washed semen. My partner and I are going to start insemination in aug. I have done a ton of research as I am sure all of you have and we have decided to go route with the highest success rate. Also I have read that to track ovulation the ovulation/fertility monitor is the most accurate and successful way to track (rather than test strips). This will be both of our first child and first shot at TTC! We are both so excited and I must admit frightened at the thought of disappointment. Stress, however is a huge no no when tttc as well. So we are gonna take it easy and rest assurred that everything will happen as it is suppose to. Good luck to all of you!

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As a sperm donor, I was wondering, what is or what would be considered a respectful way to have sex with a lesbian in order to make a donation.

@kren – Me and my partner of 3 years want to have a baby so I decided to start doing my research. Looking into the easiest and least expensive ways to start our family. I would LOVE your advice and methods to how you guys were able to get pregnant. Thanks for your help!