2006
GUEST POST FROM: Matt D.
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About a year ago, at my first semester of college I met a girl who lived on my floor. Now when I first met her she came out to me as being bi-sexual, which I thought was completely fine and actually really cool; she was unique. So after a few weeks of getting to know each other we decided to start dating. After about a year of being together, I noticed that she didn’t love me the same way that I loved her. I always asked her what was wrong and she always had the same reply, “nothing”. So I blew it off and figured that her love would grow a little slower with me being her first long term relationship and all. Then, one night after coming home from her mother’s house, I found her in our basement and she was crying uncontrollably. I didn’t know what to do or say. After a moment ofsilence, she said the two words that would change my life: “I’m gay”. I didn’t know what to say. I was speechless and devastated. So I calmed her down and called her mom (who is also a lesbian) and spoke to her for a minute. I didn’t flip out or anything but I have to say that at that moment, I was the most confused I’ve ever been in my entire life.Its been two months since then, and I decided that who better than to share my story than with other lesbians. I know that what happened to me is only seen in episodes of Friends (you know, Ross’ wife leaves him for another woman?) yeah, that one. I have never even heard of this happening in real life before, but here I am, A first hand account.
So here’s the point of the post: After this event, I truly believe that it has been the most fulfilling experience in my entire life so far. I’ve read about crazy ex-boyfriends on other blogs and I want to say that this is not the case with me. I love her for what she did. Even though I might have lost the love of my life, I am happy with the fact that she is finally true to herself. She is now free and now she can finally enjoy her life to the fullest. I still live with her and I am always there to help her with anything she needs. I can honestly say that I would have never changed what happened for the world.
I just want everyone who reads this to know that there is a man out there that has been opened up to a whole new world and loves every minute of it. I have turned this experience into something to be proud of, something worth having and most importantly, something to grow from. The GLBT community is an amazing family. And I hope that the family greets her with open arms and gives her the security and love that she needs and deserves. As for me, I will continue to support the cause and do what I can (I am proud to say that I voted yes on Ref. I for Colorado!).
I would also like to end this with a thank you my two aunties in Denver, who have been the most amazing mentors a guy could ever have. And also I would like to thank “her”, you don’t have a boyfriend anymore but you’ve gained something better: a best friend for life.
Good luck to everyone on their journeys. Life is an adventure: make it fun one.




















I think that is truely wonderful that your love for her is so great. It takes a unique person to be able to do that. I wish the both of you happiness on your new journey. The gift of love is indeed the greatest gift.