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Feb
2007

The kind of people I try damn hard to avoid

MSN CONVERSATION —— (information of the other party undisclosed to protect her identity)…. says:
sure… hey, u sound like u’re in love man! ur msn nick tells it all.

you’re irresistible says:
hee.. *coughs coughs*

…. says:
why so shy..? shy la! how u met him

you’re irresistible says:
hmm wait.. you’re a very devoted christian right?

…. says:
ya… i think so…

you’re irresistible says:
hahaha.. i see…..what do you think of homosexuality then?

…. says:
it’s wrong lor.. chances ah.. there are driving insecurities and loneliness in a person therefore he/she rejects himself/herself for who she/he is
and turn to become something that he/she is not
alot of such people have very deep rejection and insecurities
they have very deep denial issues
they can look very cool on outside la.. but mostly
when u get to know them more..
they are crying out for love to satisfy a deep hole that they create through their self rejection
as in too deep? u understand what i say?

you’re irresistible says:
hmmm im listening
do you know some people like them?
because you mentioned “when you get to know them more”

…. says:
ya… they are not v happy people
some of them - girls (lesbians) are in relationships w girls

you’re irresistible says:
well..not all straight people are happy right?? haha…..
so homosexuals have no right to be unhappy? lol…..
sorry i personally know many friends like this and im kinda on their side

…. says:
not tat… its really stems from the fact tat they cannot accept who they really are..
and want to change…
i have friends
i am on their side too
to really face the issue
and not run and hide to be someone that they are not
tat to me is truly sad

you’re irresistible says:
what if it’s someone they are?

…. says:
well, like it or not. nature has chosen they are males
the organs tell so
or females, the organs tell so
most of the females reject their femininity and want to be male because of certain rejections
trust me… if u objectively look at them, there are reasons why they chose to live in a certain bubble
some of them don trust man

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and then she had to go. argh. dont get me wrong she’s a really nice person!! in fact she helped me out a lot voluntarily when I was in the shittiest period of my life. I owe her a lot. but for that to come out from her….. I don’t know lah. I guess I’m not surprised! think I’ll either ask e lsa tips for dealing with such people since i suck at it!! or just shrug it off the next time I see such people. hmmmmm. we’ll see.

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5 Responses to The kind of people I try damn hard to avoid

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by Anonymous on February 20th, 2007 at 2:36 pm

you sure sound singaporean i have friends like that (not to mention that my sister is one devoted christian too). i don’t avoid them, i just try not to talk about/discuss my sexual orientation(love life) with them. other topics, we talk.

by R on February 22nd, 2007 at 1:22 am

oh really? sorry for that singaporean tone then
are you a singaporean yourself? if you do, your blog is @?
I’m glad ya’all still talk.

by jitters on February 23rd, 2007 at 8:45 am

If you’re not Singaporean, you’re Malaysian.

Only people who talk in that style. I should know, I’m Malaysian…

Anyway Jitters, the other person is just a total ignoramous. Prbably not a good idea to come out to them….yet.

by Anonymous on February 25th, 2007 at 8:13 pm

A long time ago, nearly ten years now, I came out to my best friend, who was much more keenly Muslim than me (I had thought), and she had this kind of reaction. She wanted to fix me and gave me scripture and it was twelve kinds of painful. Now, years later, when we’re not 19 anymore, she’s still straight and I’m still bi and we’re both still Muslim, and we’re still best friends. I find that with people who love you, it works out. It’s not a universal thing, of course, but it’s a rule of thumb. And also, there are some people who move on from where they are and others who never will, and it becomes obvious pretty quickly which ones are which.

Good luck with your friend. You’re a bigger person than her (her?) if you appreciate her friendship in other parts of your life, even though she can’t manage any understanding here.

by Summer on March 12th, 2007 at 5:32 pm