I doubt too many healthy people are looking for insensitive, self-centered bastards to be involved with , but plenty are looking for people who don’t play games. Good luck finding a great person and most of all, I hope you enjoy being single for as long as you ARE single, whether that’s another six months or another sixty years.

I have to tell you that, as you approach 30, more and more people will pair off (although the odds say that not all of those pairings will be permanent…). There can be a lot of pressure, both from people in the LGBT community who would like to see you have a girlfriend because they think it will make you happy (and the right girls will, but the wrong ones won’t), and from straight folk who want you to “wise up” and get married to some guy.

I don’t believe in dating someone just to have a “someone.” I have had the unfortunate experience of extracting myself from a relationship that I got into for the wrong reasons and it wasn’t pleasant. For the past few years, I haven’t wanted to date, and while friends and family are giving me crap about that, I think that it should be okay to take time off from dating if you want to. I really do think that the right person will come along at the right time (like she did for grumpy granny). And in the meantime, don’t worry about what you can’t control.

“You’re smart. Stay that way.”

~L.F.