Comments on: Relationships & Identity http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2007/04/26/relationships-identity/ Sun, 06 Nov 2011 06:14:01 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Vic http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2007/04/26/relationships-identity/comment-page-1/#comment-501 Vic Sun, 29 Apr 2007 04:21:00 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/?p=406#comment-501 Same in the hetero world. We always learned or released something from a relationship or even just a passer-by. Otherwise, what a meaningless encounter!<br/><br/>That's the fun of growing up.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('501','Vic'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('501','Vic','Same in the hetero world. We always learned or released something from a relationship or even just a passer-by. Otherwise, what a meaningless encounter!<br\/><br\/>That\'s the fun of growing up.'); return false;">Quote</a></div> Same in the hetero world. We always learned or released something from a relationship or even just a passer-by. Otherwise, what a meaningless encounter!

That’s the fun of growing up.

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]]> By: FrancesM http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2007/04/26/relationships-identity/comment-page-1/#comment-500 FrancesM Sat, 28 Apr 2007 20:17:00 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/?p=406#comment-500 Nunya I agree to an extent. If I'm for some very strange reason around homophobes, white power activists or similar folks I may not be as gregarious or free speaking. I do find however that as I grow less afraid of people, places & things I have less of a need to change my personal expression/personality/identity based on how I perceive the other person to be. For me it has to do with self-esteem because I acted the way I thought others wanted me to be based on who I thought they were, so I'd be more likeable. When a person feels good about themselves (in my humble opinion) they are consistant regardless of who they meet, in their identification & expression of themselves. But ya know I could be full of it! ;-)<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('500','FrancesM'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('500','FrancesM','Nunya I agree to an extent. If I\'m for some very strange reason around homophobes, white power activists or similar folks I may not be as gregarious or free speaking. I do find however that as I grow less afraid of people, places & things I have less of a need to change my personal expression\/personality\/identity based on how I perceive the other person to be. For me it has to do with self-esteem because I acted the way I thought others wanted me to be based on who I thought they were, so I\'d be more likeable. When a person feels good about themselves (in my humble opinion) they are consistant regardless of who they meet, in their identification & expression of themselves. But ya know I could be full of it! ;-)'); return false;">Quote</a></div> Nunya I agree to an extent. If I’m for some very strange reason around homophobes, white power activists or similar folks I may not be as gregarious or free speaking. I do find however that as I grow less afraid of people, places & things I have less of a need to change my personal expression/personality/identity based on how I perceive the other person to be. For me it has to do with self-esteem because I acted the way I thought others wanted me to be based on who I thought they were, so I’d be more likeable. When a person feels good about themselves (in my humble opinion) they are consistant regardless of who they meet, in their identification & expression of themselves. But ya know I could be full of it! ;-)
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]]> By: Nunya http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2007/04/26/relationships-identity/comment-page-1/#comment-498 Nunya Fri, 27 Apr 2007 21:22:00 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/?p=406#comment-498 I remember writing in a couple of posts in my own blog about how I've noticed that most people tend to shift their identities depending on who they're interacting with, not just in a romantic relationship context. I think GLBTQs even do it when interacting with straight people. I don't know how much of that relates to self-esteem so much as just assuming you know something about what the person you're talking to is okay with and will identify with. There's a level of caution, specifically in the beginning, in interactions with all kinds of people in your life.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('498','Nunya'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('498','Nunya','I remember writing in a couple of posts in my own blog about how I\'ve noticed that most people tend to shift their identities depending on who they\'re interacting with, not just in a romantic relationship context. I think GLBTQs even do it when interacting with straight people. I don\'t know how much of that relates to self-esteem so much as just assuming you know something about what the person you\'re talking to is okay with and will identify with. There\'s a level of caution, specifically in the beginning, in interactions with all kinds of people in your life.'); return false;">Quote</a></div> I remember writing in a couple of posts in my own blog about how I’ve noticed that most people tend to shift their identities depending on who they’re interacting with, not just in a romantic relationship context. I think GLBTQs even do it when interacting with straight people. I don’t know how much of that relates to self-esteem so much as just assuming you know something about what the person you’re talking to is okay with and will identify with. There’s a level of caution, specifically in the beginning, in interactions with all kinds of people in your life.
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]]> By: FrancesM http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2007/04/26/relationships-identity/comment-page-1/#comment-496 FrancesM Fri, 27 Apr 2007 20:43:00 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/?p=406#comment-496 Tis true!<br/>~F<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('496','FrancesM'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('496','FrancesM','Tis true!<br\/>~F'); return false;">Quote</a></div> Tis true!
~F
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]]> By: Kelly http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2007/04/26/relationships-identity/comment-page-1/#comment-494 Kelly Fri, 27 Apr 2007 18:57:00 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/?p=406#comment-494 This was a great take on the subject. You are right in that a lot of thinking can be done on this subject. Most of all I think we all owe it to ourselved to be who we are in our hearts, but a little influence from the one we love most never hurts.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('494','Kelly'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('494','Kelly','This was a great take on the subject. You are right in that a lot of thinking can be done on this subject. Most of all I think we all owe it to ourselved to be who we are in our hearts, but a little influence from the one we love most never hurts.'); return false;">Quote</a></div> This was a great take on the subject. You are right in that a lot of thinking can be done on this subject. Most of all I think we all owe it to ourselved to be who we are in our hearts, but a little influence from the one we love most never hurts.
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