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I can’t say I’ve ever used the g-card to my advantage as opportunities to do so are rare indeed…

I just feel it is an immense advantage in life, generally speaking, to have a slightly different perspective than the vast majority, it offers a chance for personal growth. Seeing life from a minority perspective but distinctly refusing to be pushed to the margins or even out of society and public life, is a very enriching way of living. To confront people who cultivate prejudice and live with different sets of values than my own is something very challenging, sometimes it’s annoying but it’s always interesting. To do so with congeniality, a good sense of humour and self-irony makes it even more exciting for the huge variety of reactions one may receive.

When I meet new people I never play the pronoun game when it comes to speaking about partners – people hear but they very often do not listen. Sometimes I think I could be covered in rainbow stickers and people still wouldn’t realize. My partner says “you just look straight”. What it is exactly that makes me look straight I fail to reckon. My cousin, even more bizarrely, was once told she doesn’t walk like a dyke. What does it mean to look straight or not to walk like a lesbian? Opposite prejudice from the “dyke side of life”? Something none of us needs is pressure and prejudice from our own lines – we get enough of that from elsewhere. So please, let me have my hair long, let me maintain my shoe-mania. I still drink my beer from the bottle “like a bricklayer” (quote from my Mum). Let the hardcore ‘dykes on bikes’ type of gal grace her home with frilly lace curtains and porcelain cats in a post-rococo design if she feels like it. I digress? No, all I do is playing the g-card to advantage. Because I’m considered as ‘different’ from the outside and I am belonging to a minority I can be exactly like I am without having to explain anything!

P. S. Have a great pride month – I’ll be in Berlin this year – enjoy yourselves!