Comments on: This is Hard http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2007/12/22/this-is-hard/ Sun, 06 Nov 2011 06:14:01 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Blue http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2007/12/22/this-is-hard/comment-page-1/#comment-1632 Blue Tue, 25 Dec 2007 16:57:00 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2007/12/22/this-is-hard/#comment-1632 Just my two cents, but since you've stated that a polygraph will be involved at some point, I'd travel the legal road and state that you are not legally married. If it were a job where no polygraphs were involved, then I'd say follow your heart and say that absolutely you are married. It sucks, but there you have it.<br/><br/>I hope by the time I'm 50 I have this same dilemma.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('1632','Blue'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('1632','Blue','Just my two cents, but since you\'ve stated that a polygraph will be involved at some point, I\'d travel the legal road and state that you are not legally married. If it were a job where no polygraphs were involved, then I\'d say follow your heart and say that absolutely you are married. It sucks, but there you have it.<br\/><br\/>I hope by the time I\'m 50 I have this same dilemma.'); return false;">Quote</a></div> Just my two cents, but since you’ve stated that a polygraph will be involved at some point, I’d travel the legal road and state that you are not legally married. If it were a job where no polygraphs were involved, then I’d say follow your heart and say that absolutely you are married. It sucks, but there you have it.

I hope by the time I’m 50 I have this same dilemma.

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]]> By: LadyMoor http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2007/12/22/this-is-hard/comment-page-1/#comment-1625 LadyMoor Sat, 22 Dec 2007 22:41:00 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2007/12/22/this-is-hard/#comment-1625 I don't know where you live, but if they have domestic partnerships in your state, become your wife's legal partner immediately. Unless you have done that already, or unless you live in Massachusetts, and are actually legally married, no matter how you feel about your wife, you aren't married. In other words, it would be lieing to say you are married if you aren't. If there is a line where you can identify other people you live with, there is probably also a space where they ask your relationship. That's where you put your wife's name and list her as your life partner.<br/><br/>Good luck. I hope you get the job.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('1625','LadyMoor'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('1625','LadyMoor','I don\'t know where you live, but if they have domestic partnerships in your state, become your wife\'s legal partner immediately. Unless you have done that already, or unless you live in Massachusetts, and are actually legally married, no matter how you feel about your wife, you aren\'t married. In other words, it would be lieing to say you are married if you aren\'t. If there is a line where you can identify other people you live with, there is probably also a space where they ask your relationship. That\'s where you put your wife\'s name and list her as your life partner.<br\/><br\/>Good luck. I hope you get the job.'); return false;">Quote</a></div> I don’t know where you live, but if they have domestic partnerships in your state, become your wife’s legal partner immediately. Unless you have done that already, or unless you live in Massachusetts, and are actually legally married, no matter how you feel about your wife, you aren’t married. In other words, it would be lieing to say you are married if you aren’t. If there is a line where you can identify other people you live with, there is probably also a space where they ask your relationship. That’s where you put your wife’s name and list her as your life partner.

Good luck. I hope you get the job.

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