Comments on: Lesbians give lesbians a bad name! http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/01/16/lesbians-give-lesbians-a-bad-name/ Sun, 06 Nov 2011 06:14:01 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Jen http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/01/16/lesbians-give-lesbians-a-bad-name/comment-page-1/#comment-9891 Jen Mon, 11 Jul 2011 15:25:33 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/01/16/lesbians-give-lesbians-a-bad-name/#comment-9891 Its so refreshing to see an article about something that has bothered me also! I admit I dont get out much, but from what I see and read women do seem to latch on quick and then leave. I wonder if its a 20's thing. You see that a lot in the younger generation, but you would think by the time they are in their thirties and fourties, they shape up. im 37, and would love to be in a real relationship with someone of high quality, but i have held out for years turning women down because i have the guts to wait for the right one. no sense in being hurt. We need to be mature about it. its not necessarily a chemical that makes us act like idiots, i dont buy that, I think its because people insist in having sex right away, and they dont ask enough questions about who the person really is. They dont give themselves a chance to generally like the person and make sure you can live with them long term.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('9891','Jen'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('9891','Jen','Its so refreshing to see an article about something that has bothered me also! I admit I dont get out much, but from what I see and read women do seem to latch on quick and then leave. I wonder if its a 20\'s thing. You see that a lot in the younger generation, but you would think by the time they are in their thirties and fourties, they shape up. im 37, and would love to be in a real relationship with someone of high quality, but i have held out for years turning women down because i have the guts to wait for the right one. no sense in being hurt. We need to be mature about it. its not necessarily a chemical that makes us act like idiots, i dont buy that, I think its because people insist in having sex right away, and they dont ask enough questions about who the person really is. They dont give themselves a chance to generally like the person and make sure you can live with them long term.'); return false;">Quote</a></div> Its so refreshing to see an article about something that has bothered me also! I admit I dont get out much, but from what I see and read women do seem to latch on quick and then leave. I wonder if its a 20′s thing. You see that a lot in the younger generation, but you would think by the time they are in their thirties and fourties, they shape up. im 37, and would love to be in a real relationship with someone of high quality, but i have held out for years turning women down because i have the guts to wait for the right one. no sense in being hurt. We need to be mature about it. its not necessarily a chemical that makes us act like idiots, i dont buy that, I think its because people insist in having sex right away, and they dont ask enough questions about who the person really is. They dont give themselves a chance to generally like the person and make sure you can live with them long term.
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]]> By: Sarah http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/01/16/lesbians-give-lesbians-a-bad-name/comment-page-1/#comment-9707 Sarah Thu, 12 May 2011 21:36:05 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/01/16/lesbians-give-lesbians-a-bad-name/#comment-9707 I hope not to offend, but I think that the opinion that we have any more break ups than anyone else is ridiculous. Obviously when you are looking at any bar scene, you are gonna find bed hoping and broken relationships. That's par for the course. Why would someone in there teens and twenties be looking to settle down? Gay, straight or otherwise. These "baby dykes" are doing what young people of any orientation do. I have more lesbian friends in long term committed relationships than not. Maybe it is an age and maturity issue, rather than a lesbian issue? I also think that it takes finding what you don't want in order to see what you do. If you are single then mingle, nothing wrong with that if you ask me.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('9707','Sarah'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('9707','Sarah','I hope not to offend, but I think that the opinion that we have any more break ups than anyone else is ridiculous. Obviously when you are looking at any bar scene, you are gonna find bed hoping and broken relationships. That\'s par for the course. Why would someone in there teens and twenties be looking to settle down? Gay, straight or otherwise. These \"baby dykes\" are doing what young people of any orientation do. I have more lesbian friends in long term committed relationships than not. Maybe it is an age and maturity issue, rather than a lesbian issue? I also think that it takes finding what you don\'t want in order to see what you do. If you are single then mingle, nothing wrong with that if you ask me.'); return false;">Quote</a></div> I hope not to offend, but I think that the opinion that we have any more break ups than anyone else is ridiculous. Obviously when you are looking at any bar scene, you are gonna find bed hoping and broken relationships. That’s par for the course. Why would someone in there teens and twenties be looking to settle down? Gay, straight or otherwise. These “baby dykes” are doing what young people of any orientation do. I have more lesbian friends in long term committed relationships than not. Maybe it is an age and maturity issue, rather than a lesbian issue? I also think that it takes finding what you don’t want in order to see what you do. If you are single then mingle, nothing wrong with that if you ask me.
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]]> By: name Ahem http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/01/16/lesbians-give-lesbians-a-bad-name/comment-page-1/#comment-7824 name Ahem Sun, 12 Dec 2010 23:04:35 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/01/16/lesbians-give-lesbians-a-bad-name/#comment-7824 And, it's for that reason I will never let anyone call me their wife. I agree with the dating pool theory, though.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('7824','name Ahem'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('7824','name Ahem','And, it\'s for that reason I will never let anyone call me their wife.\r\n\r\nI agree with the dating pool theory, though.'); return false;">Quote</a></div> And, it’s for that reason I will never let anyone call me their wife.

I agree with the dating pool theory, though.

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]]> By: Crazy Lesbian Mom http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/01/16/lesbians-give-lesbians-a-bad-name/comment-page-1/#comment-6815 Crazy Lesbian Mom Fri, 12 Nov 2010 00:09:04 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/01/16/lesbians-give-lesbians-a-bad-name/#comment-6815 It's that damn "lesbian bed death" thing... Being from Canada, I *am* legally bound to my wife, and have to say that it is not that that keeps me from straying, but the inclination perhaps comes from a lusty sexy sexual relationship over time turning into best friendship, where couples do everything together and then have no interest in having sex because there's nothing new and exciting to come home to. Keeping your own identity is key. And I am not far off being the fresh piece of meat baby dyke in the bar... but never want to go back there. Just have to find a happy medium. Not too comfortable, a little bit exciting.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('6815','Crazy Lesbian Mom'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('6815','Crazy Lesbian Mom','It\'s that damn \"lesbian bed death\" thing...\r\n\r\nBeing from Canada, I *am* legally bound to my wife, and have to say that it is not that that keeps me from straying, but the inclination perhaps comes from a lusty sexy sexual relationship over time turning into best friendship, where couples do everything together and then have no interest in having sex because there\'s nothing new and exciting to come home to.\r\n\r\nKeeping your own identity is key. And I am not far off being the fresh piece of meat baby dyke in the bar... but never want to go back there.\r\n\r\nJust have to find a happy medium. Not too comfortable, a little bit exciting.'); return false;">Quote</a></div> It’s that damn “lesbian bed death” thing…

Being from Canada, I *am* legally bound to my wife, and have to say that it is not that that keeps me from straying, but the inclination perhaps comes from a lusty sexy sexual relationship over time turning into best friendship, where couples do everything together and then have no interest in having sex because there’s nothing new and exciting to come home to.

Keeping your own identity is key. And I am not far off being the fresh piece of meat baby dyke in the bar… but never want to go back there.

Just have to find a happy medium. Not too comfortable, a little bit exciting.

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]]> By: Lou http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/01/16/lesbians-give-lesbians-a-bad-name/comment-page-1/#comment-6563 Lou Mon, 16 Aug 2010 00:37:13 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/01/16/lesbians-give-lesbians-a-bad-name/#comment-6563 I can definitely see numerous points of views on this one. When I was younger, I did find myself falling into a deep hole of break up after break up. Not to say that I was permiscuous, but I can say that I was incredibly close. I felt the need to find something better than I had. I kept thinking that if I kept looking, that the right one would fall into my lap. (Which is not the case) I let some really amazing women hate me because I was shallow and inconsiderate. I think there are numerous reasons as to why we have such a bad rep. I am definitely one of those reasons, but am making an effort to educate some younger folks that you don't need to pass girls around because you are unhappy. It is much safer (mentally, emotionally, and physically) to find what you are looking for, and not settle for less. Basically, stop trying every flavor in the ice cream. Have a great day ladies. Thank you for your opinions and willingness to open up.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('6563','Lou'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('6563','Lou','I can definitely see numerous points of views on this one. When I was younger, I did find myself falling into a deep hole of break up after break up. Not to say that I was permiscuous, but I can say that I was incredibly close. I felt the need to find something better than I had. I kept thinking that if I kept looking, that the right one would fall into my lap. (Which is not the case) I let some really amazing women hate me because I was shallow and inconsiderate. I think there are numerous reasons as to why we have such a bad rep. I am definitely one of those reasons, but am making an effort to educate some younger folks that you don\'t need to pass girls around because you are unhappy. It is much safer (mentally, emotionally, and physically) to find what you are looking for, and not settle for less. Basically, stop trying every flavor in the ice cream. Have a great day ladies. Thank you for your opinions and willingness to open up.'); return false;">Quote</a></div> I can definitely see numerous points of views on this one. When I was younger, I did find myself falling into a deep hole of break up after break up. Not to say that I was permiscuous, but I can say that I was incredibly close. I felt the need to find something better than I had. I kept thinking that if I kept looking, that the right one would fall into my lap. (Which is not the case) I let some really amazing women hate me because I was shallow and inconsiderate. I think there are numerous reasons as to why we have such a bad rep. I am definitely one of those reasons, but am making an effort to educate some younger folks that you don’t need to pass girls around because you are unhappy. It is much safer (mentally, emotionally, and physically) to find what you are looking for, and not settle for less. Basically, stop trying every flavor in the ice cream. Have a great day ladies. Thank you for your opinions and willingness to open up.
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