Comments on: My embarrassing lesbian dating after coming out… http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/02/03/my-embarrassing-lesbian-dating-after-coming-out/ Thu, 29 Jul 2010 22:53:40 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Roxy http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/02/03/my-embarrassing-lesbian-dating-after-coming-out/comment-page-1/#comment-3444 Roxy Fri, 10 Oct 2008 09:34:20 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/02/03/my-embarrassing-lesbian-dating-after-coming-out/#comment-3444 Hm, I get a funny feeling that when my name is googled, this site will come up, and then people will get the wrong idea... Bah, whatever. Well, perhaps my perspective is different since I'm bi (or more like asexual, but anyhow.) Here goes. I'm a tomboy, too. And I've been mistaken as a boy before (awwwkwrd), though not anymore (it hurt my feelings. I got a book on make-up. I studied it the way I studied other books. Monkey see, monkey do, and now I know the difference between shimmer and sparkle. Woo! But at the root of it, a tomboy is a tomboy is a tomboy. Now I'm just a tomboy with warpaint.) Even though make-up and girlie things have become second nature to me, I think it's better not to change and especially not to fret about being on the boyish side. Believe me. Once you've gone femme (don't even think about it), you realize just how great "boyish" really is. Femme can be so... impractical. And petty. And strutty. Yeah yeah I'm fine with it now, but I still think there's a keen advantage in being boyish. In cliche terms--- most people would rather date Shane than Carmen. Case closed(and I don't even like that show.)<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('3444','Roxy'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('3444','Roxy','Hm, I get a funny feeling that when my name is googled, this site will come up, and then people will get the wrong idea...\r\nBah, whatever.\r\n\r\nWell, perhaps my perspective is different since I\'m bi (or more like asexual, but anyhow.) Here goes.\r\n\r\nI\'m a tomboy, too. And I\'ve been mistaken as a boy before (awwwkwrd), though not anymore (it hurt my feelings. I got a book on make-up. I studied it the way I studied other books. Monkey see, monkey do, and now I know the difference between shimmer and sparkle. Woo! But at the root of it, a tomboy is a tomboy is a tomboy. Now I\'m just a tomboy with warpaint.)\r\n\r\nEven though make-up and girlie things have become second nature to me, I think it\'s better not to change and especially not to fret about being on the boyish side.\r\n\r\nBelieve me. Once you\'ve gone femme (don\'t even think about it), you realize just how great \"boyish\" really is. Femme can be so... impractical. And petty. And strutty. Yeah yeah I\'m fine with it now, but I still think there\'s a keen advantage in being boyish. In cliche terms--- most people would rather date Shane than Carmen. Case closed(and I don\'t even like that show.)'); return false;">Quote</a></div> Hm, I get a funny feeling that when my name is googled, this site will come up, and then people will get the wrong idea…
Bah, whatever.

Well, perhaps my perspective is different since I’m bi (or more like asexual, but anyhow.) Here goes.

I’m a tomboy, too. And I’ve been mistaken as a boy before (awwwkwrd), though not anymore (it hurt my feelings. I got a book on make-up. I studied it the way I studied other books. Monkey see, monkey do, and now I know the difference between shimmer and sparkle. Woo! But at the root of it, a tomboy is a tomboy is a tomboy. Now I’m just a tomboy with warpaint.)

Even though make-up and girlie things have become second nature to me, I think it’s better not to change and especially not to fret about being on the boyish side.

Believe me. Once you’ve gone femme (don’t even think about it), you realize just how great “boyish” really is. Femme can be so… impractical. And petty. And strutty. Yeah yeah I’m fine with it now, but I still think there’s a keen advantage in being boyish. In cliche terms— most people would rather date Shane than Carmen. Case closed(and I don’t even like that show.)

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]]> By: Acquafortis http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/02/03/my-embarrassing-lesbian-dating-after-coming-out/comment-page-1/#comment-2164 Acquafortis Tue, 05 Feb 2008 20:06:57 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/02/03/my-embarrassing-lesbian-dating-after-coming-out/#comment-2164 Just give yourself time. Love yourself first and others in turn will love you too.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('2164','Acquafortis'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('2164','Acquafortis','Just give yourself time. Love yourself first and others in turn will love you too.'); return false;">Quote</a></div> Just give yourself time. Love yourself first and others in turn will love you too.
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]]> By: Jan http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/02/03/my-embarrassing-lesbian-dating-after-coming-out/comment-page-1/#comment-2145 Jan Mon, 04 Feb 2008 22:23:05 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/02/03/my-embarrassing-lesbian-dating-after-coming-out/#comment-2145 Be patient. We all blossom at different times. Perhaps it is not yet your time. Love will come for you.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('2145','Jan'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('2145','Jan','Be patient. We all blossom at different times. Perhaps it is not yet your time. Love will come for you.'); return false;">Quote</a></div> Be patient. We all blossom at different times. Perhaps it is not yet your time. Love will come for you.
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]]> By: turkeyisdelicious http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/02/03/my-embarrassing-lesbian-dating-after-coming-out/comment-page-1/#comment-2135 turkeyisdelicious Mon, 04 Feb 2008 18:24:19 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/02/03/my-embarrassing-lesbian-dating-after-coming-out/#comment-2135 i'm no psychologist, but you seem pretty harsh on yourself ("lousy guy", "lousy butch", "stupid story"). (my apologies for the cliche but...) you have to love yourself and be proud of yourself before you can love someone else. do you have any close gay friends? people you feel you can relate to and understand you?<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('2135','turkeyisdelicious'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('2135','turkeyisdelicious','i\'m no psychologist, but you seem pretty harsh on yourself (\"lousy guy\", \"lousy butch\", \"stupid story\"). \r\n(my apologies for the cliche but...) you have to love yourself and be proud of yourself before you can love someone else.\r\n\r\ndo you have any close gay friends? people you feel you can relate to and understand you?'); return false;">Quote</a></div> i’m no psychologist, but you seem pretty harsh on yourself (“lousy guy”, “lousy butch”, “stupid story”).
(my apologies for the cliche but…) you have to love yourself and be proud of yourself before you can love someone else.

do you have any close gay friends? people you feel you can relate to and understand you?

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