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“It’s the look”. At least that’s part of it, I’ve told myself over the past couple of days.

Nina, over at Closer to Fine had a post one day about identifying as a femme, wanting it to be obvious to everyone that she’s gay, her reactions to butches and theirs to her. I found the post intriguing in and of itself, but what’s had me thinking was one of the comments that was posted. The commenter was uncertain as to what may attract some lesbians to women that look like men, do femmes ever want femmes, do butches want butches… I loved her entire comment, it was open and honest.. inquisitive, and it made me think.

I mean we all know that everyone… gay, straight, white, black, brown, male, female… any mix of these combinations and hundreds more… are just attracted to someone for as many different reasons as there stars in the sky. But still, there is something in the question itself that is so intriguing to all of us, and I’m thinking maybe it’s because we rarely take time to tell one another what it is that draws us to each other, what makes our heads turn, what makes that someone special … someone special. We want or need to hear these things as humans and sexual beings. It’s data, it’s clues, its patterns, it’s code to the dance we dance and the love we chase, to the flirtations and to closeness we gain.

Nina’s post made me think about what it is for me that draws me to women. What are those sweet subtle things that send me spinning when a woman is near by. What kind of woman is she that makes my heart race? And what are the parts that concoct the “chemistry”. Starting tomorrow, in a series of 5 posts, I will tell what it is for me, a woman who identifies toward the butch side of center, that makes my knees buckle for a woman who identifies in the realm of femme.

It will take 5 posts… because it’s the look
the touch,
the sound,
the smell
and the taste…

it is all of those (and more).