Comments on: Completely Hypothetical http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/04/10/completely-hypothetical/ Sun, 06 Nov 2011 06:14:01 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: goldstardyke http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/04/10/completely-hypothetical/comment-page-1/#comment-2540 goldstardyke Fri, 18 Apr 2008 21:42:49 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/?p=719#comment-2540 Thank you for your response Bonheur5. I've never been fond of labels myself. However it is a bit awkward to think of yourself one way your entire life and then poof, one day it's something different. Love IS about the heart, nothing more nothing less. I promise I won't let this pass me by.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('2540','goldstardyke'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('2540','goldstardyke','Thank you for your response Bonheur5. I\'ve never been fond of labels myself. However it is a bit awkward to think of yourself one way your entire life and then poof, one day it\'s something different. Love IS about the heart, nothing more nothing less. I promise I won\'t let this pass me by.'); return false;">Quote</a></div> Thank you for your response Bonheur5. I’ve never been fond of labels myself. However it is a bit awkward to think of yourself one way your entire life and then poof, one day it’s something different. Love IS about the heart, nothing more nothing less. I promise I won’t let this pass me by.
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]]> By: Bonheur5 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/04/10/completely-hypothetical/comment-page-1/#comment-2535 Bonheur5 Thu, 17 Apr 2008 18:35:44 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/?p=719#comment-2535 Now, my best advice is this; do not label yourself. I am always so saddened by those who continually try to define themselves. Life is so complex and we are so diverse, why limit and label? Your sexuality is not who you are. You are you and thats the greatest thing to be. I am nearly 32 years old and I spent over 20 years trying to define myself as straight. Not because it's what I wanted, but because I thought it was what everyone ELSE wanted. I dated boys in high school, I have been in at least four serious relationships with men, including a nine year marriage to one. I never felt like I should be with a man. I found men attractive... and was able and still am able to admire their beauty. But I have never been attracted to them sexually. I guess if people were to label me now I'd be labeled as a lesbian. If they feel the need to catergorize me then I say go for it. It doesn't change who I am now or have ever been. I was the same woman eleven years ago when I walked down the isle with a man as I am right now loving a woman every day. Same heart, same soul... same morals and values. Follow your heart and don't let life OR love pass you by.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('2535','Bonheur5'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('2535','Bonheur5','Now, my best advice is this; do not label yourself. I am always so saddened by those who continually try to define themselves. Life is so complex and we are so diverse, why limit and label? Your sexuality is not who you are. You are you and thats the greatest thing to be. I am nearly 32 years old and I spent over 20 years trying to define myself as straight. Not because it\'s what I wanted, but because I thought it was what everyone ELSE wanted. I dated boys in high school, I have been in at least four serious relationships with men, including a nine year marriage to one. I never felt like I should be with a man. I found men attractive... and was able and still am able to admire their beauty. But I have never been attracted to them sexually. I guess if people were to label me now I\'d be labeled as a lesbian. If they feel the need to catergorize me then I say go for it. It doesn\'t change who I am now or have ever been. I was the same woman eleven years ago when I walked down the isle with a man as I am right now loving a woman every day. Same heart, same soul... same morals and values. Follow your heart and don\'t let life OR love pass you by.'); return false;">Quote</a></div> Now, my best advice is this; do not label yourself. I am always so saddened by those who continually try to define themselves. Life is so complex and we are so diverse, why limit and label? Your sexuality is not who you are. You are you and thats the greatest thing to be. I am nearly 32 years old and I spent over 20 years trying to define myself as straight. Not because it’s what I wanted, but because I thought it was what everyone ELSE wanted. I dated boys in high school, I have been in at least four serious relationships with men, including a nine year marriage to one. I never felt like I should be with a man. I found men attractive… and was able and still am able to admire their beauty. But I have never been attracted to them sexually. I guess if people were to label me now I’d be labeled as a lesbian. If they feel the need to catergorize me then I say go for it. It doesn’t change who I am now or have ever been. I was the same woman eleven years ago when I walked down the isle with a man as I am right now loving a woman every day. Same heart, same soul… same morals and values. Follow your heart and don’t let life OR love pass you by.
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]]> By: Jan http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/04/10/completely-hypothetical/comment-page-1/#comment-2532 Jan Thu, 17 Apr 2008 00:11:25 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/?p=719#comment-2532 Sorry! I hope my comment about gender mattering in an intimate relationship did not frighten anyone away from expressing their opinion. I was merely stating mine.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('2532','Jan'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('2532','Jan','Sorry! I hope my comment about gender mattering in an intimate relationship did not frighten anyone away from expressing their opinion. I was merely stating mine.'); return false;">Quote</a></div> Sorry! I hope my comment about gender mattering in an intimate relationship did not frighten anyone away from expressing their opinion. I was merely stating mine.
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]]> By: Jan http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/04/10/completely-hypothetical/comment-page-1/#comment-2529 Jan Fri, 11 Apr 2008 03:28:21 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/?p=719#comment-2529 I come from the opposite corner.... I never knew I was lesbian until I fell in love at 49 (six years ago). I was married twice -- the second one lasted twenty years. From my twenty-years married experience, I could NOT imagine being with a man again. It's a wonderful theory -- to love the person, not the gender, but gender matters if you are in an intimate relationship.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('2529','Jan'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('2529','Jan','I come from the opposite corner.... I never knew I was lesbian until I fell in love at 49 (six years ago). I was married twice -- the second one lasted twenty years.\r\n\r\nFrom my twenty-years married experience, I could NOT imagine being with a man again.\r\n\r\nIt\'s a wonderful theory -- to love the person, not the gender, but gender matters if you are in an intimate relationship.'); return false;">Quote</a></div> I come from the opposite corner…. I never knew I was lesbian until I fell in love at 49 (six years ago). I was married twice — the second one lasted twenty years.

From my twenty-years married experience, I could NOT imagine being with a man again.

It’s a wonderful theory — to love the person, not the gender, but gender matters if you are in an intimate relationship.

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]]> By: Sandra http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/04/10/completely-hypothetical/comment-page-1/#comment-2528 Sandra Thu, 10 Apr 2008 22:46:06 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/?p=719#comment-2528 I have identified as lesbian since I was about 17. I am still attracted to the "odd" man. No biggie, I just appreciate and keep on moving. Love is love. -S<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('2528','Sandra'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('2528','Sandra','I have identified as lesbian since I was about 17. I am still attracted to the \"odd\" man. No biggie, I just appreciate and keep on moving. Love is love.\r\n\r\n-S'); return false;">Quote</a></div> I have identified as lesbian since I was about 17. I am still attracted to the “odd” man. No biggie, I just appreciate and keep on moving. Love is love.

-S

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