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You’re not crazy. A lot of us have had relationships with guys before coming to the realization that we prefer girls. It’s perfectly normal and more common than most lesbians would like to admit. After all, we live in a heterocentric society.

It takes some of us longer to figure out what we want and how we want to live. I call it the “Fingercuffs Dilemma”, a reference to the main character in Chasing Amy. To quote the movie, “Not all of us are given a f**king road map at birth.”

Don’t get hung up on labels, either. You might experience some attraction to guys, but be much more attracted to gals. If that’s the case, don’t stress out about whether you are bi or gay. Identify yourself however you like.

Learn to love and accept yourself for who you are. From there, simply be open to healthy, respectful and loving relationships as the opportunities present themselves.

Peace out,
Dharma Kelleher
http://www.dharmashanti.com

spent plenty of years married. certainly have had way more straight sex than lesbian. hafta say, women make more sense to me on most levels. still, sex for me is as much about the presence a person brings than their plumbing.

like the last comment, i agree, don’t worry about slapping a label on yourself so much as find out what feels right to you, then be you. what feels right can change over time. just keep being you.

Heyah my names Emma and Ihave been in love with my m8 Megan for about 2 years now but she says that she is bi sexuael and we have had fun together but she has used me for sex before and im scared that she is still doing it to me and I really want her to fall in love with me plzzzzz can u help xxxxx

Interesting. I’m in the same situation. o_o 18 years old, and after being with girls, feels fake with guys even though I’ve developed crushes and relationships…
I totally agree with you on what you said about women–incredibly sexy,converse better, kiss better, smell better, BETTER SEX HELL YES

Good luck~

I struggled with that. I tried to force myself to like guys at 14 and just couldnt come to it. At one point i was confused about if i liked guys or not and i tried having sex with a guy and it just didnt feel right to me so here i am at 19 a full on lesbian.

I have no problems with labels. I’m a lezbian. I want to know the sexuality of a woman because I don’t date heterosexual women and don’t want to date anymore women who are not secure in their sexuality.

I don’t have anything against men just because they are men. I don’t understand why some lesbians say negative things about men just because they are not sexually attracted to them. If attracted to them enough to kiss them and sex them then why say garbage about them when they have done nothing to you. If a woman has been abused by a man then she would naturally have an issue with that man.

Lesbians saying negative things against men for no reason just feeds the propaganda that lesbians don’t like men just because they are men. Liking someone is not the same as being sexually attracted to someone.

Heterosexual BEHAVIOR is taught from birth. When a lesbian frees her mind and accepts her sexuality she breaks through the pile of garbage she was thought her sexuality should be.