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		<title>By: Hahn at Home &#187; Blog Archive &#187; Well, If I Were You&#8230;</title>
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		<dc:creator>Hahn at Home &#187; Blog Archive &#187; Well, If I Were You&#8230;</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 23 Jul 2008 16:39:29 +0000</pubDate>
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		<title>By: jul</title>
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		<dc:creator>jul</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 22 Jul 2008 15:03:47 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Dear Lisa - 

You talk about &quot;ending up back in bed&quot; like it magically happens without your control. Sex isn&#039;t really that way...unless you&#039;re drugged, assaulted or some other terrible crime. Ultimately, you are the one responsible for keeping this terrible cycle going. It sucks to hear, but it&#039;s the truth. You keep getting involved with someone who clearly isn&#039;t willing or wanting to be what you wish she was. 

If it were me, I&#039;d cut all contact with both of them. All of it. Block numbers/email addresses, etc...you have to make a break, and the situation is toxic.

I&#039;d spend some time alone - not dating anyone. Try to figure out why you are drawn to people like her, and work on yourself. Develop your own interests/hobbies - cycling, nature walks, whatever...and make a promise to yourself not to date for a while until you, yourself, are healthy. Otherwise, you&#039;ll keep gravitating toward the same stuff and it will ultimately make you miserable.

juls last blog post..&lt;a href=&quot;http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/Grrlplanet/~3/342527756/&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Brooke Hogan is a moron.&lt;/a&gt;&lt;div class=&quot;comment-remix-meta&quot;&gt;&lt;a href=&quot;#&quot; class=&quot;replyto&quot; onclick=&quot;replyto(&#039;2996&#039;,&#039;jul&#039;); return false;&quot;&gt;Reply&lt;/a&gt;  - &lt;a href=&quot;#&quot; class=&quot;quote&quot; onclick=&quot;quote(&#039;2996&#039;,&#039;jul&#039;,&#039;Dear Lisa - \r\n\r\nYou talk about \&quot;ending up back in bed\&quot; like it magically happens without your control. Sex isn\&#039;t really that way...unless you\&#039;re drugged, assaulted or some other terrible crime. Ultimately, you are the one responsible for keeping this terrible cycle going. It sucks to hear, but it\&#039;s the truth. You keep getting involved with someone who clearly isn\&#039;t willing or wanting to be what you wish she was. \r\n\r\nIf it were me, I\&#039;d cut all contact with both of them. All of it. Block numbers\/email addresses, etc...you have to make a break, and the situation is toxic.\r\n\r\nI\&#039;d spend some time alone - not dating anyone. Try to figure out why you are drawn to people like her, and work on yourself. Develop your own interests\/hobbies - cycling, nature walks, whatever...and make a promise to yourself not to date for a while until you, yourself, are healthy. Otherwise, you\&#039;ll keep gravitating toward the same stuff and it will ultimately make you miserable.\n\njuls last blog post..&lt;a href=\&quot;http:\/\/feeds.feedburner.com\/~r\/Grrlplanet\/~3\/342527756\/\&quot; rel=\&quot;nofollow\&quot;&gt;Brooke Hogan is a moron.&lt;\/a&gt;&#039;); return false;&quot;&gt;Quote&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Dear Lisa &#8211; </p>
<p>You talk about &#8220;ending up back in bed&#8221; like it magically happens without your control. Sex isn&#8217;t really that way&#8230;unless you&#8217;re drugged, assaulted or some other terrible crime. Ultimately, you are the one responsible for keeping this terrible cycle going. It sucks to hear, but it&#8217;s the truth. You keep getting involved with someone who clearly isn&#8217;t willing or wanting to be what you wish she was. </p>
<p>If it were me, I&#8217;d cut all contact with both of them. All of it. Block numbers/email addresses, etc&#8230;you have to make a break, and the situation is toxic.</p>
<p>I&#8217;d spend some time alone &#8211; not dating anyone. Try to figure out why you are drawn to people like her, and work on yourself. Develop your own interests/hobbies &#8211; cycling, nature walks, whatever&#8230;and make a promise to yourself not to date for a while until you, yourself, are healthy. Otherwise, you&#8217;ll keep gravitating toward the same stuff and it will ultimately make you miserable.</p>
<p>juls last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/Grrlplanet/~3/342527756/" rel="nofollow">Brooke Hogan is a moron.</a>
<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('2996','jul'); return false;">Reply</a>  &#8211; <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('2996','jul','Dear Lisa - \r\n\r\nYou talk about \&quot;ending up back in bed\&quot; like it magically happens without your control. Sex isn\'t really that way...unless you\'re drugged, assaulted or some other terrible crime. Ultimately, you are the one responsible for keeping this terrible cycle going. It sucks to hear, but it\'s the truth. You keep getting involved with someone who clearly isn\'t willing or wanting to be what you wish she was. \r\n\r\nIf it were me, I\'d cut all contact with both of them. All of it. Block numbers\/email addresses, etc...you have to make a break, and the situation is toxic.\r\n\r\nI\'d spend some time alone - not dating anyone. Try to figure out why you are drawn to people like her, and work on yourself. Develop your own interests\/hobbies - cycling, nature walks, whatever...and make a promise to yourself not to date for a while until you, yourself, are healthy. Otherwise, you\'ll keep gravitating toward the same stuff and it will ultimately make you miserable.\n\njuls last blog post..&lt;a href=\&quot;http:\/\/feeds.feedburner.com\/~r\/Grrlplanet\/~3\/342527756\/\&quot; rel=\&quot;nofollow\&quot;&gt;Brooke Hogan is a moron.&lt;\/a&gt;'); return false;">Quote</a></div>
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