Jul
2008
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I Kissed a Girl…

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It’s hard not to like Katy Perry’s I Kissed a Girl, her ode to bi-curious experimentation. A monster summer hit, It’s catchy, it’s flirty, it’s girl-on-girl action. And who doesn’t love that? I find it hard not to sing along to the chorus, reminiscing about my own lip-locks from past.

Cause one thing Katy doesn’t do is give the kiss of a woman justice. It’s more than a cherry-chapped-sticked wet dream of a young girl’s fantasy, at least for me. It’s the feeling of soft lips on yours, a warm and inviting mouth, while touching the supple curves of her body. It’s also how I found the passion I’d been searching for all my life.

When I first decided to jump into the lesbian dating pool, I did what most women-seeking-women do: place a online personals ad. Yahoo! personals was the place to be then (especially since it was free in those days). I got a few responses, most not worth my time; lest I forget the girl I met who wanted to me to come back to her place, even though she had a live-in girlfriend.

Yet in those ghastly responses came the one from “Daisy,” a woman whom I seemed to have so much in common with. Both us intelligent, goofy girls with sensitive, no-nonsense attitudes, our first time exploring our lesbian desires. We clicked from the start, and spent most every night getting to know each other better.

After a while, Daisy and I decided our first date would be a movie. This was, of course, dependent upon if we liked what we saw once we met. (Pictures can be deceiving.) I met Daisy at a neutral spot on our campus, waited for her and we both broke out in smiles upon spying each other. (Yeah, she does look like the cutie from the photo! :-).  Fears relieved, Daisy and I embarked on our date.

Fast forward to later, and Daisy and I are sitting my car, chitchatting and not ready to go home yet. We’re talking. Finally that awkward moment comes when it’s time for the kiss but who makes the first move? Daisy leans in, and at this point, I don’t remember who asked who, but the kiss happens.

My first kiss with a woman.

I feel her full lips on mine, and I think how soft. Our lips part and I think she tastes good. I wrap my arms around her and I want to feel more. All the while in my head, I believe this kiss is it. This is what I had been waiting for. I had never felt this way kissing a man. Daisy’s touch was unbelievable.

Of course we had to stop, or things would have gotten out of hand in my vehicle. Let’s just say the windows were a little foggy. That night I went home dreaming of more kisses like that one — and from that day on I’ve had my fare share (not too much :-).

Now the kisses are not about experimentation, but for love. Like with my girlfriend, Lebron, I feel the same tingle, but it’s heightened because of the “in love” factor.

I’m far from curious anymore.

I can definitely see how the song is, in some way, an ode to bi-curious experimentation, absolutely. But I simply cannot stand some of the lyrics in the song. Especially these lines, “it’s not what good girls do, not how they should behave” and “it felt so wrong, it felt so right”. Lines like this are evidence to an underlying homophobia. It irritates me that the song is so catchy and most of the time people aren’t truly listening to what they’re singing - it doesn’t affirm queerness at all!

Miss Avarices last blog post..

by Miss Avarice on July 27th, 2008 at 12:32 pm

There’s nothing like the memory of our first kiss. I’ll never forget the tingle that went through me when I had mine. As for the song, it is what it is. I don’t like nor loath it. I do however have a lot of semi straight friends who find comfort in it. It never ceases to amaze me how many straight married women out there love the feeling of another woman’s lips.

We are all on our own paths and should all be allowed the right to love who we love and experiment when we see fit. I may be hated by some because of my sexuality, but I’m loved by just as many if not more.

by goldstardyke on July 27th, 2008 at 12:47 pm

I was put off by some of the lyrics, too, especially when she says “you’re my experimental game.” It kinda irks me, but like with most songs, it’s made to be catchy and flirty. Let’s just see if Katy becomes more than a one-hit wonder.

by Deepdiva on July 28th, 2008 at 3:30 am

Kate Perry has a catchy tune…but I always get the impression that she’s never “really” kissed a girl. It sounds like she just kissed her little niece when she says “I liked it.” Um…hardly what I would say after a kiss with a chick. Who wears “cherry chapstick” anymore anyway?

Point is, all of us know that the song doesn’t come close to anything accurate - but, in its defense, what Pop really does? I think it does have some value, however. It invokes discussion foremost, and secondly…what lesbian doesn’t think it’s cute to see a little teenage girl bopping to a song about kissing another chick? It’s a great inroad to a deeper discussion of sexuality and orientation.

Kate Perry is similar to the Tatu of my younger years. Some good beats, a little controversy, but not much substance. Kind of like my first kiss with a minister’s daughter.

Juls last blog post..Salma Hayek single again…ditches grandpa.

by Jul on July 29th, 2008 at 9:27 am

Like K.D Lang says: “some people need inning.”

by nameorlando on July 31st, 2008 at 5:32 am

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