Comments on: Why I Don’t Want To Be Your First Girlfriend http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/09/12/why-i-dont-want-to-be-your-first-girlfriend/ Thu, 29 Jul 2010 22:53:40 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Tigerlily http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/09/12/why-i-dont-want-to-be-your-first-girlfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-6354 Tigerlily Wed, 19 May 2010 01:19:44 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/?p=1335#comment-6354 What on earth...? Posts such as this, whilst admirable in the sense there is genuine passion, can actually be quite destructive. By venting ones own worries and emotional insecurities in such an aggressive way, isn't it possible for girls who may or may not be lesbian or bisexual to be discouraged in exploring their sexuality? Wouldn't YOU feel suppressed if you were not able to confront the fact you were attracted to a woman simply because quite a number of lesbians (it seems) are discriminatory towards those who aren't really sure, or entering their first same-sex relationship? And who, may I ask, were all of your first same-sex relationships with??<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('6354','Tigerlily'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('6354','Tigerlily','What on earth...? Posts such as this, whilst admirable in the sense there is genuine passion, can actually be quite destructive. By venting ones own worries and emotional insecurities in such an aggressive way, isn\'t it possible for girls who may or may not be lesbian or bisexual to be discouraged in exploring their sexuality? Wouldn\'t YOU feel suppressed if you were not able to confront the fact you were attracted to a woman simply because quite a number of lesbians (it seems) are discriminatory towards those who aren\'t really sure, or entering their first same-sex relationship? \r\n\r\nAnd who, may I ask, were all of your first same-sex relationships with??'); return false;">Quote</a></div> What on earth…? Posts such as this, whilst admirable in the sense there is genuine passion, can actually be quite destructive. By venting ones own worries and emotional insecurities in such an aggressive way, isn’t it possible for girls who may or may not be lesbian or bisexual to be discouraged in exploring their sexuality? Wouldn’t YOU feel suppressed if you were not able to confront the fact you were attracted to a woman simply because quite a number of lesbians (it seems) are discriminatory towards those who aren’t really sure, or entering their first same-sex relationship?

And who, may I ask, were all of your first same-sex relationships with??

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]]> By: name ojai2reno http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/09/12/why-i-dont-want-to-be-your-first-girlfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-5243 name ojai2reno Thu, 09 Jul 2009 23:10:58 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/?p=1335#comment-5243 I never have quite gotten what the majority of women;98 out of a hundred; find so attractive about being anyones' "first" anything. I am not an institution of higher learning, much less a teacher. "NoBeginnersNeedApply" - that has been kind of a joke but I have really lived by it. The temptations have been numerous, I suppose- but I can't say I remember a single one. It's like the way many women feel about butch women-they don't get it- there's not- hing there. No attraction. Maybe it's the life experience I find so attractive-and perhaps it's the lack of experience, conviction(in the case of the bisexual)and then maybe it's the knowledge that it's gonna be one homo-faux-paux after another-getting involved with the unfortunate beginner. I had to learn as I matured and it was a whole journey. There are no accelerated summer courses to get you where I am in life right now. And I clearly have not gotten a full grasp od this thing, I'm still starting and destroying relationships. Even so- "No Beginners Need Apply" Thanks<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5243','name ojai2reno'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5243','name ojai2reno','I never have quite gotten what the majority of women;98 out of a hundred; find so attractive about being anyones\' \"first\" anything.\r\nI am not an institution of higher learning, much less a teacher. \"NoBeginnersNeedApply\" - that has been kind of a joke but\r\nI have really lived by it. The temptations have been numerous, I suppose- but I can\'t say I remember a single one. It\'s like the \r\nway many women feel about butch women-they don\'t get it- there\'s not-\r\nhing there. No attraction. Maybe it\'s the life experience I find so attractive-and perhaps it\'s the lack of experience, conviction(in the case of the bisexual)and then maybe it\'s the knowledge that it\'s gonna be one homo-faux-paux after another-getting involved with the unfortunate beginner. I had to learn as I matured and it was a whole \r\njourney. There are no accelerated summer courses to get you where I am\r\nin life right now. And I clearly have not gotten a full grasp od this\r\nthing, I\'m still starting and destroying relationships. Even so-\r\n\"No Beginners Need Apply\"\r\nThanks'); return false;">Quote</a></div> I never have quite gotten what the majority of women;98 out of a hundred; find so attractive about being anyones’ “first” anything.
I am not an institution of higher learning, much less a teacher. “NoBeginnersNeedApply” – that has been kind of a joke but
I have really lived by it. The temptations have been numerous, I suppose- but I can’t say I remember a single one. It’s like the
way many women feel about butch women-they don’t get it- there’s not-
hing there. No attraction. Maybe it’s the life experience I find so attractive-and perhaps it’s the lack of experience, conviction(in the case of the bisexual)and then maybe it’s the knowledge that it’s gonna be one homo-faux-paux after another-getting involved with the unfortunate beginner. I had to learn as I matured and it was a whole
journey. There are no accelerated summer courses to get you where I am
in life right now. And I clearly have not gotten a full grasp od this
thing, I’m still starting and destroying relationships. Even so-
“No Beginners Need Apply”
Thanks
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]]> By: kristina http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/09/12/why-i-dont-want-to-be-your-first-girlfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-4420 kristina Sat, 07 Feb 2009 08:04:26 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/?p=1335#comment-4420 i agree with you completely.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('4420','kristina'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('4420','kristina','i agree with you completely.'); return false;">Quote</a></div> i agree with you completely.
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]]> By: Nina http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/09/12/why-i-dont-want-to-be-your-first-girlfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-4418 Nina Fri, 06 Feb 2009 21:11:17 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/?p=1335#comment-4418 To Brittiney who says, “plus i’m kinda picky i want my girl lesbian NOT Bi.”

This is an example of biphobia. Your words suggest that being Bi is a negative characteristic A bisexual person such as myself, is born as one just as you were born a lesbian. Please choose your words carefully. I hope you decide while you’re still so young to become a queer positive supporter as opposed to one of the many within our community who ignorantly discriminate against bisexuals. Why must so many within our oppressed community discriminate? It’s sad to say but I am more hesitant to tell a lesbian I am bisexual than I am to tell any straight person. Perhaps because I feel a greater need for acceptance within my own queer community. Let’s all support each other, we have enough people outside to fight.

I guess this is really a message to our entire community. Best of luck Brittiney is finding a great first girlfriend. It will bring with it many experiences and memories that you’ll never forget. Just wait till your first love…whoa.

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]]> By: MzNyki http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/09/12/why-i-dont-want-to-be-your-first-girlfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-3383 MzNyki Thu, 25 Sep 2008 13:48:48 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/?p=1335#comment-3383 Wow ladies, thanks for all of the comments. I posted this in a few places and I must say that it has generated a lot of feed back. Between this and the post about being over my ex, i've gotten a lot of email. that's pretty cool. Thanks so much for replying. <abbr><em>MzNykis last blog post..<a href="http://mznyki.wordpress.com/2008/09/19/break-free/" rel="nofollow">Break Free</a></em></abbr><div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('3383','MzNyki'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('3383','MzNyki','Wow ladies, thanks for all of the comments. I posted this in a few places and I must say that it has generated a lot of feed back. Between this and the post about being over my ex, i\'ve gotten a lot of email. that\'s pretty cool. Thanks so much for replying.\n\n<abbr><em>MzNykis last blog post..<a href=\"http:\/\/mznyki.wordpress.com\/2008\/09\/19\/break-free\/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Break Free<\/a><\/em><\/abbr>'); return false;">Quote</a></div> Wow ladies, thanks for all of the comments. I posted this in a few places and I must say that it has generated a lot of feed back. Between this and the post about being over my ex, i’ve gotten a lot of email. that’s pretty cool. Thanks so much for replying.

MzNykis last blog post..Break Free

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