Life as a pregnant lesbian…

Sep
2008

Life as a pregnant lesbian…

You don’t hear that phrase too much…. at least not yet or I don’t hear it too much.

I tell you what, it has been very interesting seeing people I haven’t seen in awhile and explaining to them how I got pregnant. A lot of people think/thought that me and my ex were having the baby… Not true. If you have been following my past blogs then you will know the story.

So just being pregnant in general is very challenging. My body has gone through some major changes. I guess you can say that I am having a “text book” pregnancy but WOW! Let me just say that. Before I got pregnant I was 120lbs, athletic, worked out 4 times a week and as a matter of fact I was training for a marathon… Those plans got put on hold until next year. I got a breast reduction 3 years ago b/c my breasts were too big for my frame, thinking that I wouldn’t have any children b/c I always wanted to adopt. Well God had different plans for me. My breast are now back to that size… Good times! I am definitely happy for the gift that comes out of this, however I am little scared. I am having a natural waterbirth, which means no drugs or medical intervention unless absolutely necessary. Scared b/c I figured out last year that I probably won’t ever get another dog b/c they require too much for what I wanted to give. (I LOVE DOGS..ANIMALS IN GENERAL, just didn’t have time for a dog) I figured I would just stick with my cat. So now, I am about to have a little human being… looking at me for help and guidance. When I first found out I was pregnant, I thought, who in their right mind would give me a child to have and take care of FULL TIME? lol I love children, just wasn’t ready for one full-time. I also, never dated a women who had children. I never really had an opinion on it, it just never turned out that way.

So my question to you is, is it different dating a woman with children? I don’t want to be that mother that dates and instantly start bringing my son around, or that mother that goes out to the bars all the time. Of course, dating is not my priority right now. I know I will be totally occupied with my little one, but just curious. Any advice or comments are welcome.

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9 Responses to Life as a pregnant lesbian…

Ya know, I expected something completely different when I started to read this. LOL

Speaking as a mother of 2 when she realized that she was lesbian — it’s kinda hard b/c you start out as friends so they KNOW your kid(s) before the intimacy — at least that’s how it happened for me.

Just don’t go movin’ people in right away and everything’ll be just fine

Good luck!

Tina-cious.coms last blog post..If I move too fast just let me know — ‘Cause it means you move too slow

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by Tina-cious.com on September 15th, 2008 at 3:01 PM

Originally Posted By Tina-cious.com

Just don’t go movin’ people in right away and everything’ll be just fine

I second that piece of beautiful advice!

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by goldstardyke on September 15th, 2008 at 3:04 PM

To be honest, I never dated a girl/woman with kids…and I never thought about it. I’d go with Tina-cious.com though…read her current post, she’s got kids, and a rockin’ sex life…something is going right for her.

Juls last blog post..Sarah McLachlan’s marriage is over = good songs are back.

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by Jul on September 15th, 2008 at 4:27 PM

You might want to read Louise Sloan’s Knock Yourself Up, a book for women who become single moms by choice. Much of the book is devoted to making the decision to become a parent and choosing a method (known/unknown donor, adoption), but she also gets into life as a single mom, including basic daily coping, finding a support network, and dating. The book is for a mixed lesbian/bi/straight audience, but Sloan herself is a lesbian, so it’s very inclusive.

Danas last blog post..LGBT Parenting Roundup

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by Dana on September 15th, 2008 at 9:52 PM

Probably your son or daughter is a bit older now and perhaps all your doubts are gone and you are a happy lesbian mother as I am. Love Marize

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by nameMarize on January 6th, 2010 at 9:27 PM

Very well wrote. I may use something from your article. not like many others wrote just to be.It’s hard to be a single mom, and advices are allways welcome.Thanks!

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by Single Mom Help on February 17th, 2010 at 4:44 AM

This is a fantastic, It is glad to see this blog, nice informative blog, Thanks for share this article.

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by Stomach Body Fat on March 4th, 2010 at 12:55 PM

This is a great blog, thanks for sharing it, I have been feeling like the only single, pregnant lesbian alive. Four months into the pregnancy now and I am looking forward to motherhood. I would be lying though if I said that I am not still in a little disbelief that its happening! Of course after years of the subject of children with my female partners being probably the most drawn out and politically messed subject for all the reasons that I’m sure you are aware of…just which method do you choose?, which woman will carry, is there money involved, how much? when? and becoming a parent being something I have wanted so dearly but years passing being nowhere near it, I was at the point where I had accepted that it would never happen so this is a bit surreal to me. I became pregnant the old fashioned way and I was in a relationship with the man, it didn’t work out, I’m as gay as the day is long and it was a flawed idea that i could be with him but this is still a blessing. I have no clue how a single mum manages to date though, I have thought about the dynamics of it and of course that was the first and last attempt to date a man! in all honesty and as pathetic as it sounds, where dating is concerned I have been telling myself those days are probably over at least for a long time but I hope that I discover that its not that way. Thank lord for easily accessed information!