2008
Falling in love with someone who still loves their x
i read a post earlier about IF IM OVER MY X WHY ARENT YOU? i found it interesting… i agreed with some of it.. but others… not so much!!! i know everything i say in this blog does not apply to everything she said.. its just that every situation varied and has its own issues at hand… i just feel like in her situation was partially in the other shoes.
i understand but every situation is different so you cant use this for everyone… aside from ppl that are still (messing) with x girlfriends.. when i first met my gf she still messed around with her x.. she was still madly in love with her.. but they came to whatever conclusion that they weren’t going to be together… but that being the case why still text each other and talk and see each other all the time and tell each other you love each other.. u might as well be together without the title.. and neither one of u is seeing anyone else..?? hmmm so pretty much have a answer to all of your ?’s from the girlfriend who couldn’t get over her girlfriends x for the longest time…. (i am now… but at the same time… she actually told me to my face when i asked while we were together… that she was still in love with her x.. and she didn’tlove me at the time…) they still spoke the girls stuff was still in her house.. the girl still had a key… but i was with her everyday so i knew that they weren’t seeing each other.. i know they talked and texted though…. i had proof of that…. i trust my girlfriend… i do.. its the x girlfriend.. that you cant trust… not all x girlfriends just some…
1. If I still wanted her then I would be with her and not you
(that’s not true if she doesn’t want to be with you…. or say for eexample she isn’t gay but you guys decided to go for it… then realized it wasn’t working but u still loved her…?? or if you knew that your x girlfriend loved her more than she loved her.. then if she had a choice she would have been with her but because of the x they aren’t)
2. She is an ex for a reason.
(right…. )
3. Everyone is different in bed. Stop asking if you’re better.
(now thissssssssssssssssss ? i never asked… lol that’s nonsense honestly.. these are one of these ?’s you ask and when u get the answer your probably gonna be mad..) and yes everyone in better is different but some are better than others…
4. No I’m not secretly counting the days until she & I get back together.
(oh wow!! yeah no… i don’t have this issue.. lol….. that’s crazy)
5. You are my current girlfriend not her.
(no comment for this one… )
6. The past is not the present.
(no comment)
7. I’m dating you because you’re not her.
(i don’t have this issue.. but that wouldn’t be a good response.. i would your dating me because of my personality not because I’m not her… every person has different things about them that you like…)
8. It’s not my fault if she calls to see how I’m doing.
(its not your fault but u can control it.. u can easily tell someone to not call…. then if she keeps calling and u didn’t answer that’s on her u tried.. but if she calls and u answer and talk and blah blah then yeah its in your hands now)
9. Before we were lovers we were friends so she may call to check on me sometimes.
(now if you don’t love her and you’re really just friends fine.. lol.. i have x’s who i don’t even consider x’s…. cause we have a friendship i didn’t love them…. either… now if u love your x and still care about her then…. that’s different… but once it’s because love.. the friendship part changes completely.. soemtimes i wont say for all.. but for mine it did… especially because when they broke up they kept freakin each other… now if they had broken up and just stayed friends then… well thats different… but the fact that they still texted i love you and had sex and all of that bs… shows you have more than friend feelings for her..)
10. You’ll push me away from you before she has a chance at taking me from
(lmaooooooooooooooooooooo I’m sure that’s how the person in those shoes feels…. lol.. i understand your side.. but i just went through the person in the other shoes side) in two relationships only this one has gotten so much better since the x is gone…
it came to a point where i KNEW that she loved me and that i was her only 1.. and i knew for a fact that she was OVER her x.. yes if something happened to her x she might you know oh my god…. i hope she is ok because she cared about her once.. but… she is over her.. she isn’t in love with her anymore.. and to me that was my biggest issue… FALLING IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE WHO WAS STILL IN LOVE WITH THEIR X
) I agree with you that every situation is different. I on the other hand happen to be that very faithful girlfriend that has no emotional or physical connections to my ex any longer. She is a but a fond memory of something that happened in my past. I would like to leave her “in my past”. But I do know that’s not always the case & some people do continue inappropriate relations with their ex. Not I.
wow…this would be an absolute mess. I don’t care if she’s angelina jolie….she’s not worth this much hassle.
I think some girls have a tolerance for drama that I don’t. I am not friends (in any sense of the word) with any of my ex’s. I think it’s completely disrespectful….so, it follows that I would also find it very disrespectful if my girlfriend was still “friends” with an ex. I don’t think it’s really appropriate to be friends with someone who has seen you naked at some point – that’s my own personal rule for myself.
Saying that, I would have stopped dating the woman described in this scenario yesterday…or earlier if possible. It’s a mess waiting to happen.