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Hmmm that’s tough… I moved to Connecticut from New York — that’s about as big a change as I’ve ever made… though… I was moving out on my own here… still I can drive home to NY any time…

That’s a tough one… can you maybe do a summer there or something?

maybe the question comes down to whether or not you feel you can find your truest self in and among the people at “home,” or among others yet to be discovered?

some people feel truest among family of origin, others feel truer going away and coming “home,” while others feel truer going away and coming “home” only for visits.

home is where the heart is, and only you can know where that is…and it may well be both here AND there, wherever there may be…Florida, or somewhere you’ve never even imagined living.

i believe that we are each of us put here to become our truest selves.

I have lived in many places…I lived in London for a year, Wyoming for a year, Connecticut for 8 years, and now somewhere else.

The issue that would be for me, is whether or not I would feel an overarching responsibility toward my family - your mother who is currently alone, and your brother who you have such frequent contact with. I would want the child to know me, and get to know me better as it ages. I have never moved with such tugs at home, and it makes it all the more difficult. If these things were not present, I would say - GO!

As it stands, you might want to try it out for a summer - temporarily stay with your uncle, and if you like it, move. See where your inclinations fall. Do you feel guilty? Lonely? Is it a blast and are you glad you went? That is, if you have the job freedom to undertake this for a brief period.

That’s just my thoughts. If you try it out, and it seems a good fit - rent a place, and go for it. If you try it out and find yourself always on the phone, missing your friends, family, etc…it’s okay to pack it up and say you gave it a shot.

Originally Posted By penelope Maybe the question comes down to whether or not you feel you can find your truest self in and among the people at “home,” or among others yet to be discovered?

Penelope,

Your comment hit home. It is about finding one’s true self. I have always felt like I didn’t belong here. It was never a negative feelings as I am surrounded by wonderful friends and family. It has always been more like a pulling feeling that I could never quite understand.

I will be making the move. I’m not sure when, as I have a lot to iron out. I will not feel bad if it doesn’t work out because at least I know I tried. I will miss my friends, but I know they will support me.

It’s time that I get to learn more about my truest self!

@Tina-cious.com - Don’t feel selfish for sticking in your comfort zone. I’m so restricted to the life I had at school before I graduated last year that I haven’t even come out yet. I just feel so pressured from my family. I’m even too scared to breakup with my old boyfriend. Sometimes I think the best thing I should have done is moved away. Each to their own I say!

I moved away from my family over 10 years ago. The distance between us is at least an 18 hour drive. I don’t regret the move and I would probably do it again if given the opportunity. But the distance does seem to “get in the way of close relationships” so I would suggest being ready for that.

If you can follow the previous suggestions to “live” in Florida for a trial period, then I would do that first to make sure it is what you really want to do. It might give you a pretty good idea of what life will be like for you there.

Kelly, I don’t think I can add to the good advice here, other than to say most folks don’t regret what they DID in earlier years, they usually regret what they DIDN’T do! That’s not to say you won’t miss your family and friends, but what an opportunity to make new ones and have new experiences, and create a whole new history for yourself. I say go for it, and good luck with whatever you choose!!

Here’s to you!

GG

I can tell you that I have moved and came back. When I get back to Michigan I wonder why I am here. To me Metro Detroit is very oppressive on many levels - the auto industry and lack of opportunity.

I came back after graduate school because of unfortunate reasons - financial and I had an illness to heal from. I have lived in various places. I love Michigan but more so where I can close to Lake Michigan or Lake Superior. I love the land and water here more than the concrete and steel of the metropolitan region.

I would recommend following your heart and feet and see where you will end up. Who knows the next place could be the place you live at for 20 years?! How else do you feel connected to Michigan other than your family?

Take a chance, live without regrets. Plus its fun to make a bold step. Its never the wrong step because you can always try a new way if one does or does not work.

Originally Posted By Cecelia
How else do you feel connected to Michigan other than your family?

There are no other connections. I can’t stand the winter, I hate the way every thing dies in the Fall, and the economy here is worse than a horror movie.

It’s all about being in a place you love, and my new love is Florida!

Well, then maybe its a good sign to move on out!

Hahaha - the economy here is worse than a horror movie, lol!

Well, shoot.
If you want to move, go! Don’t pass this up. I just moved from Texas to Illinois, and I’m really happy. yes, I left my friends and family after five years, but it’s better up here…
Well, I think I’ll let you know in a month or so once it starts snowing, haha.

i currently live in florida. i moved here from texas (with a one year stop in new orleans along the way). i can’t tell you that i’ve never felt guilty for it. i can’t tell you that it was easy. i also can’t tell you that i haven’t thought about moving back home a thousand times. but i can tell you that i’m glad i did it. like someone in the comments up there said, i feel like i found my true self here. i’ve grown, i’ve learned, i’ve gotten comfortable with me. and i found love. i don’t know where in florida you are interested in moving, but if its miami, i’m willing to help in any way i can (apartment hunting, translating, etc)