Comments on: “Blog Something” she said http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/11/21/blog-something-she-said/ Thu, 29 Jul 2010 22:53:40 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: lifewithoutborders http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/11/21/blog-something-she-said/comment-page-1/#comment-4763 lifewithoutborders Sun, 29 Mar 2009 18:46:08 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/?p=1901#comment-4763 I just found this post, and am so glad I did. I think about this stuff ALL the time (maybe too much). But what defines my sexuality? Nothing. My sexuality is me. I don't completely understand it yet, but it just is. I don't label. I live somewhat happily (definitely stubbornly) in the gray area. :) <abbr><em>lifewithoutborders´s last blog post..<a href="http://livinglifewithoutborders.blogspot.com/2009/03/why-am-i-so-afraid.html" rel="nofollow">Why am I so afraid?</a></em></abbr><div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('4763','lifewithoutborders'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('4763','lifewithoutborders','I just found this post, and am so glad I did. I think about this stuff ALL the time (maybe too much).\r\n\r\nBut what defines my sexuality? Nothing. My sexuality is me. I don\'t completely understand it yet, but it just is. \r\n\r\nI don\'t label. I live somewhat happily (definitely stubbornly) in the gray area. :)\n\n<abbr><em>lifewithoutborders´s last blog post..<a href=\"http:\/\/livinglifewithoutborders.blogspot.com\/2009\/03\/why-am-i-so-afraid.html\" rel=\"nofollow\">Why am I so afraid?<\/a><\/em><\/abbr>'); return false;">Quote</a></div> I just found this post, and am so glad I did. I think about this stuff ALL the time (maybe too much).

But what defines my sexuality? Nothing. My sexuality is me. I don’t completely understand it yet, but it just is.

I don’t label. I live somewhat happily (definitely stubbornly) in the gray area. :)

lifewithoutborders´s last blog post..Why am I so afraid?

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]]> By: I Have a Thought http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/11/21/blog-something-she-said/comment-page-1/#comment-3805 I Have a Thought Mon, 24 Nov 2008 18:56:39 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/?p=1901#comment-3805 I love you for this blog... partly because I told you to "blog something" and you did LOL... But I have to comment on it. We've known eachother for close to 2 years now and my first impression of you was not "wow what a screaming lesbian" nor was it "She's straight in disguise". Each person is different in what floats their boat so to speak. Even as adults we sometimes find it hard to pin point why we like who we like, or do what we do. Placing a label on yourself makes it just that much harder. After a while we can only strive to be the best of who we are. What ever that it. From an outsiders perspective I will call you the following, without labeling you. 1. a good mother first and foremost 2. a good wife who loves and cares for her partner 3. a good friend. Devoted and willing to be there when needed 4. Someone who stands out in a crowd.... not because you have purple hair (or whatever it is today) but because you have a strong presence. Don't place labels on yourself... or attempt it. You are who you are because that's what is in your heart. Love<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('3805','I Have a Thought'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('3805','I Have a Thought','I love you for this blog... partly because I told you to \"blog something\" and you did LOL... But I have to comment on it. We\'ve known eachother for close to 2 years now and my first impression of you was not \"wow what a screaming lesbian\" nor was it \"She\'s straight in disguise\". Each person is different in what floats their boat so to speak. Even as adults we sometimes find it hard to pin point why we like who we like, or do what we do. Placing a label on yourself makes it just that much harder. After a while we can only strive to be the best of who we are. What ever that it. From an outsiders perspective I will call you the following, without labeling you.\r\n1. a good mother first and foremost\r\n2. a good wife who loves and cares for her partner \r\n3. a good friend. Devoted and willing to be there when needed\r\n4. Someone who stands out in a crowd.... not because you have purple hair (or whatever it is today) but because you have a strong presence. \r\n\r\nDon\'t place labels on yourself... or attempt it. You are who you are because that\'s what is in your heart. \r\n\r\nLove'); return false;">Quote</a></div> I love you for this blog… partly because I told you to “blog something” and you did LOL… But I have to comment on it. We’ve known eachother for close to 2 years now and my first impression of you was not “wow what a screaming lesbian” nor was it “She’s straight in disguise”. Each person is different in what floats their boat so to speak. Even as adults we sometimes find it hard to pin point why we like who we like, or do what we do. Placing a label on yourself makes it just that much harder. After a while we can only strive to be the best of who we are. What ever that it. From an outsiders perspective I will call you the following, without labeling you.
1. a good mother first and foremost
2. a good wife who loves and cares for her partner
3. a good friend. Devoted and willing to be there when needed
4. Someone who stands out in a crowd…. not because you have purple hair (or whatever it is today) but because you have a strong presence.

Don’t place labels on yourself… or attempt it. You are who you are because that’s what is in your heart.

Love

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]]> By: Jul http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/11/21/blog-something-she-said/comment-page-1/#comment-3794 Jul Fri, 21 Nov 2008 23:01:47 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/?p=1901#comment-3794 Unlike Goldstar who eloquently tells the tale of her heart, I have to go with something far more primitive that defines my sexuality - my vagina. My sexuality is defined by what she wants. She is what perks me up and makes me pay attention. When there is something I am absolutely attracted to sexually, that would define my orientation and sexuality to me. Sure, I hope that it is also someone with a great heart, solid character and ambitious person...but the first initial attraction that hits me is purely sexual. I've never asked someone out due to their personality, and maybe that's shameful - but it's honest. What defines my sexuality is what I'm into...sexually. What I want, long for, and want to be with in a sexual way. What people do behind those doors likely defines some sexually as well. For me, it doesn't. I hope I always continue to change it up, grow, explore and for me...I don't feel like a "role" really fits. I am feminine but not "femme," I'm a top/bottom/whatever - whenever, I don't like the feeling that something restricts me....and I understand that though it might feel limiting to me, it is likely very explanatory to others. <abbr><em>Jul´s last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/Grrlplanet/~3/459553897/" rel="nofollow">Gretchen Bleiler is not a lesbian - yet.</a></em></abbr><div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('3794','Jul'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('3794','Jul','Unlike Goldstar who eloquently tells the tale of her heart, I have to go with something far more primitive that defines my sexuality - my vagina. My sexuality is defined by what she wants. She is what perks me up and makes me pay attention. When there is something I am absolutely attracted to sexually, that would define my orientation and sexuality to me. Sure, I hope that it is also someone with a great heart, solid character and ambitious person...but the first initial attraction that hits me is purely sexual. I\'ve never asked someone out due to their personality, and maybe that\'s shameful - but it\'s honest. \r\n\r\nWhat defines my sexuality is what I\'m into...sexually. What I want, long for, and want to be with in a sexual way. What people do behind those doors likely defines some sexually as well. For me, it doesn\'t. I hope I always continue to change it up, grow, explore and for me...I don\'t feel like a \"role\" really fits. I am feminine but not \"femme,\" I\'m a top\/bottom\/whatever - whenever, I don\'t like the feeling that something restricts me....and I understand that though it might feel limiting to me, it is likely very explanatory to others.\n\n<abbr><em>Jul´s last blog post..<a href=\"http:\/\/feeds.feedburner.com\/~r\/Grrlplanet\/~3\/459553897\/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Gretchen Bleiler is not a lesbian - yet.<\/a><\/em><\/abbr>'); return false;">Quote</a></div> Unlike Goldstar who eloquently tells the tale of her heart, I have to go with something far more primitive that defines my sexuality – my vagina. My sexuality is defined by what she wants. She is what perks me up and makes me pay attention. When there is something I am absolutely attracted to sexually, that would define my orientation and sexuality to me. Sure, I hope that it is also someone with a great heart, solid character and ambitious person…but the first initial attraction that hits me is purely sexual. I’ve never asked someone out due to their personality, and maybe that’s shameful – but it’s honest.

What defines my sexuality is what I’m into…sexually. What I want, long for, and want to be with in a sexual way. What people do behind those doors likely defines some sexually as well. For me, it doesn’t. I hope I always continue to change it up, grow, explore and for me…I don’t feel like a “role” really fits. I am feminine but not “femme,” I’m a top/bottom/whatever – whenever, I don’t like the feeling that something restricts me….and I understand that though it might feel limiting to me, it is likely very explanatory to others.

Jul´s last blog post..Gretchen Bleiler is not a lesbian – yet.

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]]> By: ABG http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/11/21/blog-something-she-said/comment-page-1/#comment-3792 ABG Fri, 21 Nov 2008 20:15:38 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/?p=1901#comment-3792 Possibly your sexuality is not as black and white as straight or gay or even bisexual. There are pansexuals, asexuals...so many other ways to define sexuality. My advice would be to stop thinking about it and go with what your body tells you it wants... <abbr><em>ABG´s last blog post..<a href="http://abrowngirlgonegay.wordpress.com/2008/11/21/since-my-girlfriend-is-now-married-to-him-does-that-make-me-her-mistress/" rel="nofollow">since my girlfriend is now married to him, does that make me her mistress?</a></em></abbr><div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('3792','ABG'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('3792','ABG','Possibly your sexuality is not as black and white as straight or gay or even bisexual. There are pansexuals, asexuals...so many other ways to define sexuality. My advice would be to stop thinking about it and go with what your body tells you it wants...\n\n<abbr><em>ABG´s last blog post..<a href=\"http:\/\/abrowngirlgonegay.wordpress.com\/2008\/11\/21\/since-my-girlfriend-is-now-married-to-him-does-that-make-me-her-mistress\/\" rel=\"nofollow\">since my girlfriend is now married to him, does that make me her mistress?<\/a><\/em><\/abbr>'); return false;">Quote</a></div> Possibly your sexuality is not as black and white as straight or gay or even bisexual. There are pansexuals, asexuals…so many other ways to define sexuality. My advice would be to stop thinking about it and go with what your body tells you it wants…

ABG´s last blog post..since my girlfriend is now married to him, does that make me her mistress?

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]]> By: goldstardyke http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/11/21/blog-something-she-said/comment-page-1/#comment-3787 goldstardyke Fri, 21 Nov 2008 13:18:42 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/?p=1901#comment-3787 Two little words. My Heart. It seems to let me know what I find attractive. It throws those persistent butterflies at me. It hurts when I get rejected. It makes me courageous when I feel loved. It doesn't speak the language of labels and really isn't concerned with pinning me down via a preferred term on sexuality. As I've said before. Love is the last magic. Who am I to argue with anything or anyone it tells me to do.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('3787','goldstardyke'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('3787','goldstardyke','Two little words. My Heart.\r\n\r\nIt seems to let me know what I find attractive. It throws those persistent butterflies at me. It hurts when I get rejected. It makes me courageous when I feel loved. It doesn\'t speak the language of labels and really isn\'t concerned with pinning me down via a preferred term on sexuality. \r\n\r\nAs I\'ve said before. Love is the last magic. Who am I to argue with anything or anyone it tells me to do.'); return false;">Quote</a></div> Two little words. My Heart.

It seems to let me know what I find attractive. It throws those persistent butterflies at me. It hurts when I get rejected. It makes me courageous when I feel loved. It doesn’t speak the language of labels and really isn’t concerned with pinning me down via a preferred term on sexuality.

As I’ve said before. Love is the last magic. Who am I to argue with anything or anyone it tells me to do.

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