Comments on: Taboo[?] http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/12/21/taboo/ Mon, 21 May 2012 19:48:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: dancer_inbarefeet http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/12/21/taboo/comment-page-1/#comment-4048 dancer_inbarefeet Tue, 23 Dec 2008 07:12:06 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/?p=2114#comment-4048 haha steph, you're too easily irritated. although i see what you mean. don't take everything people say to heart. -me <abbr><em>dancer_inbarefeet´s last blog post..<a href="http://dancerinbarefeet.blogspot.com/2008/12/208-am.html" rel="nofollow">2:08 AM</a></em></abbr><div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('4048','dancer_inbarefeet'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('4048','dancer_inbarefeet','haha steph, you\'re too easily irritated. although i see what you mean. don\'t take everything people say to heart. -me\n\n<abbr><em>dancer_inbarefeet´s last blog post..<a href=\"http:\/\/dancerinbarefeet.blogspot.com\/2008\/12\/208-am.html\" rel=\"nofollow\">2:08 AM<\/a><\/em><\/abbr>'); return false;">Quote</a></div> haha steph, you’re too easily irritated. although i see what you mean. don’t take everything people say to heart. -me

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]]> By: Dawg http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/12/21/taboo/comment-page-1/#comment-4046 Dawg Mon, 22 Dec 2008 19:55:12 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/?p=2114#comment-4046 It's time you start writing your stories. You say your arms tell your stories, they don't, all they tell is that you need a new outlet. People read stories, not scars. <abbr><em>Dawg´s last blog post..<a href="http://dawgdyke.blogspot.com/2008/12/psycho-8.html" rel="nofollow">Psycho ... 8</a></em></abbr><div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('4046','Dawg'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('4046','Dawg','It\'s time you start writing your stories. You say your arms tell your stories, they don\'t, all they tell is that you need a new outlet.\r\n\r\nPeople read stories, not scars.\n\n<abbr><em>Dawg´s last blog post..<a href=\"http:\/\/dawgdyke.blogspot.com\/2008\/12\/psycho-8.html\" rel=\"nofollow\">Psycho ... 8<\/a><\/em><\/abbr>'); return false;">Quote</a></div> It’s time you start writing your stories. You say your arms tell your stories, they don’t, all they tell is that you need a new outlet.

People read stories, not scars.

Dawg´s last blog post..Psycho … 8

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]]> By: S.A. Scolnik http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/12/21/taboo/comment-page-1/#comment-4045 S.A. Scolnik Mon, 22 Dec 2008 18:47:59 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/?p=2114#comment-4045 Jul - I'm twenty years old, I've had these scars for the past few years, and I've been self-injuring the past 6 years. When I meant "depending solely on my own," I meant that along the lines of getting a career, supporting myself (in all aspects), moving out of my parents house, and finding stabilization within myself. I have held several jobs over the past few years, and I have had judgment towards my self-injury/scars, but I've never been fired because of the issue (I wouldn't have been hired in the first place). Yes, the scars carry stories. You have no clue what stories they carry, and I suppose maybe you find it morbid on some level, but they are representations of my survival of my own demons. Even that sounds cliche, but again, they serve a purpose (TO ME). I'm not sure why you're comparing your asthma to my Bipolar Disorder seeing as they are two entirely different illnesses and give us both entirely different mindsets. As far as getting help for my Bipolar Disorder, I was diagnosed both by my psychiatrist and psychologist when I was seventeen. I'm now under the care of three different doctors that I see regularly. It's not a matter of "getting help" because I have had that since I was thirteen. It's not about getting help. I know I need these doctors, but I want to need myself, too. And I wear short-sleeved shirts all the time. If you think I'm afraid of people's judgments, you have far more to learn about me. I don't care who sees them, I don't care who asks about them, and I certainly do not care who judges me because of them.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('4045','S.A. Scolnik'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('4045','S.A. Scolnik','Jul - I\'m twenty years old, I\'ve had these scars for the past few years, and I\'ve been self-injuring the past 6 years. When I meant \"depending solely on my own,\" I meant that along the lines of getting a career, supporting myself (in all aspects), moving out of my parents house, and finding stabilization within myself. \n\nI have held several jobs over the past few years, and I have had judgment towards my self-injury\/scars, but I\'ve never been fired because of the issue (I wouldn\'t have been hired in the first place). \nYes, the scars carry stories. You have no clue what stories they carry, and I suppose maybe you find it morbid on some level, but they are representations of my survival of my own demons. Even that sounds cliche, but again, they serve a purpose (TO ME). \n\nI\'m not sure why you\'re comparing your asthma to my Bipolar Disorder seeing as they are two entirely different illnesses and give us both entirely different mindsets. \n\nAs far as getting help for my Bipolar Disorder, I was diagnosed both by my psychiatrist and psychologist when I was seventeen. I\'m now under the care of three different doctors that I see regularly. It\'s not a matter of \"getting help\" because I have had that since I was thirteen. It\'s not about getting help. \nI know I need these doctors, but I want to need myself, too.\n\nAnd I wear short-sleeved shirts all the time. If you think I\'m afraid of people\'s judgments, you have far more to learn about me. I don\'t care who sees them, I don\'t care who asks about them, and I certainly do not care who judges me because of them.'); return false;">Quote</a></div> Jul – I’m twenty years old, I’ve had these scars for the past few years, and I’ve been self-injuring the past 6 years. When I meant “depending solely on my own,” I meant that along the lines of getting a career, supporting myself (in all aspects), moving out of my parents house, and finding stabilization within myself.

I have held several jobs over the past few years, and I have had judgment towards my self-injury/scars, but I’ve never been fired because of the issue (I wouldn’t have been hired in the first place).
Yes, the scars carry stories. You have no clue what stories they carry, and I suppose maybe you find it morbid on some level, but they are representations of my survival of my own demons. Even that sounds cliche, but again, they serve a purpose (TO ME).

I’m not sure why you’re comparing your asthma to my Bipolar Disorder seeing as they are two entirely different illnesses and give us both entirely different mindsets.

As far as getting help for my Bipolar Disorder, I was diagnosed both by my psychiatrist and psychologist when I was seventeen. I’m now under the care of three different doctors that I see regularly. It’s not a matter of “getting help” because I have had that since I was thirteen. It’s not about getting help.
I know I need these doctors, but I want to need myself, too.

And I wear short-sleeved shirts all the time. If you think I’m afraid of people’s judgments, you have far more to learn about me. I don’t care who sees them, I don’t care who asks about them, and I certainly do not care who judges me because of them.

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]]> By: Jul http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/12/21/taboo/comment-page-1/#comment-4042 Jul Mon, 22 Dec 2008 14:36:05 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/?p=2114#comment-4042 You say that you are in an "unusual spot in my life where I'm having to depend solely on my own (which I think might be good)." As you are likely aware, bipolar disorder doesn't spontaneously disappear and has to be managed like any other illness. I have asthma. I have to take an inhaler. I have to know when I'm having problems and treat myself as I've learned to manage my illness. Depending solely on your own is often how these things don't end well...and frankly, I understand having scars that tell a story, but those same scars will make it difficult for you later in life with your employer, and they may not carry memories that you want to be reminded of as you age. Sometime in the future you may want to wear a short-sleeve shirt without being judged by others. This isn't a critique, it's just a way of saying that I hope you get assistance. Self-injury, despite how common, is a difficult way of coping... But, I think that just because you may have an illness doesn't make you any different than anyone else. Heck, we all have things we have to cope with, and illnesses we may carry. Being healthy, on the other hand, is a choice you make to deal with the things you've got. For both you and any future partner you may have, I hope you take the time to take care of yourself, and not rule out the people who may be able to help you the most. <abbr><em>Jul´s last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/Grrlplanet/~3/489657005/" rel="nofollow">I like Scarlett Johansson, but not quite this much.</a></em></abbr><div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('4042','Jul'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('4042','Jul','You say that you are in an \"unusual spot in my life where I\'m having to depend solely on my own (which I think might be good).\" As you are likely aware, bipolar disorder doesn\'t spontaneously disappear and has to be managed like any other illness. I have asthma. I have to take an inhaler. I have to know when I\'m having problems and treat myself as I\'ve learned to manage my illness. Depending solely on your own is often how these things don\'t end well...and frankly, I understand having scars that tell a story, but those same scars will make it difficult for you later in life with your employer, and they may not carry memories that you want to be reminded of as you age. Sometime in the future you may want to wear a short-sleeve shirt without being judged by others. \r\n\r\nThis isn\'t a critique, it\'s just a way of saying that I hope you get assistance. Self-injury, despite how common, is a difficult way of coping...\r\n\r\nBut, I think that just because you may have an illness doesn\'t make you any different than anyone else. Heck, we all have things we have to cope with, and illnesses we may carry. Being healthy, on the other hand, is a choice you make to deal with the things you\'ve got. \r\n\r\nFor both you and any future partner you may have, I hope you take the time to take care of yourself, and not rule out the people who may be able to help you the most.\n\n<abbr><em>Jul´s last blog post..<a href=\"http:\/\/feeds.feedburner.com\/~r\/Grrlplanet\/~3\/489657005\/\" rel=\"nofollow\">I like Scarlett Johansson, but not quite this much.<\/a><\/em><\/abbr>'); return false;">Quote</a></div> You say that you are in an “unusual spot in my life where I’m having to depend solely on my own (which I think might be good).” As you are likely aware, bipolar disorder doesn’t spontaneously disappear and has to be managed like any other illness. I have asthma. I have to take an inhaler. I have to know when I’m having problems and treat myself as I’ve learned to manage my illness. Depending solely on your own is often how these things don’t end well…and frankly, I understand having scars that tell a story, but those same scars will make it difficult for you later in life with your employer, and they may not carry memories that you want to be reminded of as you age. Sometime in the future you may want to wear a short-sleeve shirt without being judged by others.

This isn’t a critique, it’s just a way of saying that I hope you get assistance. Self-injury, despite how common, is a difficult way of coping…

But, I think that just because you may have an illness doesn’t make you any different than anyone else. Heck, we all have things we have to cope with, and illnesses we may carry. Being healthy, on the other hand, is a choice you make to deal with the things you’ve got.

For both you and any future partner you may have, I hope you take the time to take care of yourself, and not rule out the people who may be able to help you the most.

Jul´s last blog post..I like Scarlett Johansson, but not quite this much.

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]]> By: S.A. Scolnik http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2008/12/21/taboo/comment-page-1/#comment-4038 S.A. Scolnik Mon, 22 Dec 2008 01:48:56 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/?p=2114#comment-4038 Dharma - I realized someone had already posted about this issue; perhaps I felt a tad more at ease knowing someone else had already brought this one to the table. And I thank the dear Lord every day that I'm not alone in this whole ordeal. "Ordeal." Honey - I wish I had a friend who could take a liking to me so I could feel a bit more supported and grounded, but I'm in this unusual spot in my life where I'm having to depend solely on my own (which I think might be good). I know people are necessary, but I would like to take a liking to myself and learn to love myself. Waiting for someone to come along just makes the process more painful, I think? Goldstardyke - Thank you. :} <abbr><em>S.A. Scolnik´s last blog post..<a href="http://essayess.blogspot.com/2008/12/apathy_656.html" rel="nofollow">Apathy</a></em></abbr><div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('4038','S.A. Scolnik'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('4038','S.A. Scolnik','Dharma - I realized someone had already posted about this issue; perhaps I felt a tad more at ease knowing someone else had already brought this one to the table. \r\nAnd I thank the dear Lord every day that I\'m not alone in this whole ordeal. \"Ordeal.\" \r\n\r\nHoney - I wish I had a friend who could take a liking to me so I could feel a bit more supported and grounded, but I\'m in this unusual spot in my life where I\'m having to depend solely on my own (which I think might be good). I know people are necessary, but I would like to take a liking to myself and learn to love myself. Waiting for someone to come along just makes the process more painful, I think? \r\n\r\nGoldstardyke - Thank you. :}\n\n<abbr><em>S.A. Scolnik´s last blog post..<a href=\"http:\/\/essayess.blogspot.com\/2008\/12\/apathy_656.html\" rel=\"nofollow\">Apathy<\/a><\/em><\/abbr>'); return false;">Quote</a></div> Dharma – I realized someone had already posted about this issue; perhaps I felt a tad more at ease knowing someone else had already brought this one to the table.
And I thank the dear Lord every day that I’m not alone in this whole ordeal. “Ordeal.”

Honey – I wish I had a friend who could take a liking to me so I could feel a bit more supported and grounded, but I’m in this unusual spot in my life where I’m having to depend solely on my own (which I think might be good). I know people are necessary, but I would like to take a liking to myself and learn to love myself. Waiting for someone to come along just makes the process more painful, I think?

Goldstardyke – Thank you. :}

S.A. Scolnik´s last blog post..Apathy

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