i just thought that i might share my experience with coming out – it really wasnt difficult for me in the ways it is for most people!

i knew by the age of about 12 that i was different – when i had a boyfriend but was attracted to his sister? but my family, friends, lifestyle from since i can remember to the age of 17 was very different – we moved around a lot and i never had any “gay” influences or people in my life that could help me out with what i was going through – so i didn’t exactly know what or who i was. i knew of “gay” people but not a lot in our country as it is in most – my family didn’t really educate us on that or things like that.

so when we eventually settled in a city, my mom introduced me to her hair dresser, and he happened to be gay. we go on straight away, it took me a long time to trust him in a sense as i never spoke of the fact that i might be gay. also i wasn’t sure.

so thanks to some experimental spin the bottle games at a party i got to kiss girls and i really liked it, really.

then i started to hang out with Juan a lot more and we become very close friends, also it gave me a chance to see what the lifestyle was like and how others felt and their experiences.

i started getting attention from girls, and i opened up to it.

this went on until i was 19 – then i met my current partner, we were friends at first and i tried to help her and her ex sort out their problems – but to no avail as they were not meant for each other – once they were over we started dating.

my family is very conservative and even though my mom and dad had no problem having gay people over for dinner, as business partners or friends they would still not want that lifestyle in their domain – if you know what i mean.

after 2 months of sneaking around – i decided that i wasn’t going to do it any longer – i was certain that my partner and i had something very special that could last and i decided that i was just going to tell my parents.

i didn’t want to sneak around, and hide the fact that i was happy and be “ashamed” of who i was or who i was with to my family, and the news would come form somewhere at some point anyways.

so i pulled my parents aside and told them that i was gay and that i had someone special in my life. they reacted in the expected way i knew they would:

my mom only told me that they would always love me no matter what and that would always be their daughter.

my dad told me that i did not have enough experience with men and that i would come running back in 2 years time telling them that they were right and it was just a phase.

its been 2.4 years now and i don’t think they are still waiting for that – they accept me and they have always been supportive and accepted my partner well, no ill feeling – they know that i am happy.

i was never close to my mother but i was “daddy’s little girl” and my relationship with both my parents have grown and grown despite the fact that any parent would want and dream of a happy, married, kids and husband life with love and success for their daughter.

but they have never spoken to me about it beyond that night – still in denial i suspect – my partner gets introduced as my friend but there are no limits to what we may or may not do as i do not allow it – everyone knows and i am lucky that my family and the true friends i had before coming out are still by my side. i have never received any ill treatment because of my sexual orientation and thats a bit of luck too i suspect – but the world is changing.

so all i wanted to say is that – even if she doesn’t talk to you about it – they will still love you and in time they will come to realize that you are still the same person and that you are HAPPY- that is what matters most in the end!!! if she was not going to support you then she would not be talking to you right now. i think the best is to get it out in the open and let the chips fall where they may.