Comments on: TLL Q & A Advice Panel Installment #33 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2009/07/09/tll-q-a-advice-panel-installment-33/ Thu, 18 Mar 2010 22:10:23 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Lauren http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2009/07/09/tll-q-a-advice-panel-installment-33/comment-page-1/#comment-5251 Lauren Sun, 12 Jul 2009 22:15:23 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/?p=4188#comment-5251 Everyone has said things that I would already say, and it's all very true. But I'm more worried about YOU than your mother. I'm "17 going on 18" and I came out to my mom when I was 15, so I understand your dynamic. I was so worried about how my mother was handling me being gay that I forgot about how I was handling it. Make sure you "nurture" yourself; that is, make sure you stay aware of your own emotions and needs. Your parents love you and their first job is to take care of you. If you find that you need support during this process, give them the benefit of the doubt. Sometimes just talking one on one to them and reminding them that you're still there daughter is the best medicine. Take care of yourself and know that you aren't alone. -L<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5251','Lauren'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5251','Lauren','Everyone has said things that I would already say, and it\'s all very true. But I\'m more worried about YOU than your mother.\r\n\r\nI\'m \"17 going on 18\" and I came out to my mom when I was 15, so I understand your dynamic. I was so worried about how my mother was handling me being gay that I forgot about how I was handling it. Make sure you \"nurture\" yourself; that is, make sure you stay aware of your own emotions and needs. Your parents love you and their first job is to take care of you. If you find that you need support during this process, give them the benefit of the doubt. Sometimes just talking one on one to them and reminding them that you\'re still there daughter is the best medicine.\r\n\r\nTake care of yourself and know that you aren\'t alone.\r\n\r\n-L'); return false;">Quote</a></div> Everyone has said things that I would already say, and it’s all very true. But I’m more worried about YOU than your mother.

I’m “17 going on 18″ and I came out to my mom when I was 15, so I understand your dynamic. I was so worried about how my mother was handling me being gay that I forgot about how I was handling it. Make sure you “nurture” yourself; that is, make sure you stay aware of your own emotions and needs. Your parents love you and their first job is to take care of you. If you find that you need support during this process, give them the benefit of the doubt. Sometimes just talking one on one to them and reminding them that you’re still there daughter is the best medicine.

Take care of yourself and know that you aren’t alone.

-L

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]]> By: Lesbian in Glasgow http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2009/07/09/tll-q-a-advice-panel-installment-33/comment-page-1/#comment-5246 Lesbian in Glasgow Fri, 10 Jul 2009 20:10:06 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/?p=4188#comment-5246 I guess the only thing you can do is keep loving her and showing her you love her, even when she can't. I am hopeful your Mum will come around, perhaps she is still in a state of shock, with all manners of questions buzzing around her head. My mum told me that she was worried about her never having any grand children and that she was also worried that my life would be tougher for me as a lesbian too. She told me this all this a YEAR after I came out to her, so maybe your Mum will come around too. Sally x<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5246','Lesbian in Glasgow'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5246','Lesbian in Glasgow','I guess the only thing you can do is keep loving her and showing her you love her, even when she can\'t. \r\n\r\nI am hopeful your Mum will come around, perhaps she is still in a state of shock, with all manners of questions buzzing around her head.\r\n\r\nMy mum told me that she was worried about her never having any grand children and that she was also worried that my life would be tougher for me as a lesbian too.\r\n\r\nShe told me this all this a YEAR after I came out to her, so maybe your Mum will come around too. \r\n\r\nSally x'); return false;">Quote</a></div> I guess the only thing you can do is keep loving her and showing her you love her, even when she can’t.

I am hopeful your Mum will come around, perhaps she is still in a state of shock, with all manners of questions buzzing around her head.

My mum told me that she was worried about her never having any grand children and that she was also worried that my life would be tougher for me as a lesbian too.

She told me this all this a YEAR after I came out to her, so maybe your Mum will come around too.

Sally x

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