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My gf wont get out of the closet!

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ok, so my gf wont come out of the closet for anything, it could be out of the fear that it will change the way people look at her and that she in some way feels that it may cause some type of physical violence towards her. she will be leaving for med school in jan. in st. vincent and she wont be telling anyone that she’s in a relationship. now, we have been together for over a year now and that almost broke my heart! but what can i really do?! her mind is made up. i hate it hate it hate it that out of fear she is deciding to not only keep her sexuality in the closet but also the relationship.

does it go along with the territory of dating someone who is in the closet??

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If living in the closet feels wrong to you (as it does to a lot of us, including myself), my suggestion is to end the relationship. That sounds harsh, but it does you no good to try and change her. The fact that she’s moving out of town just clinches it.

by Dharma Kelleher on September 14th, 2009 at 12:34 PM

Hello,

We have been in a relationship for 23 years now, but it was not easy. In the begining my partner would never come out!!! I mean never to family,friends,co-workers,anyone! She was afraid of all the repercussions of everything, did not want society to feel different of her. Now she could care less because she knows they really won’t be with her in times of need, only I will. She realized our LOVE was what mattered not what others felt. I don’t know your age, but things have lightened up some. Just ask her if she really loves you isn’t worth the sacrifice of a few who will not understand or tolerate. In the end you don’t need those folks anyway! I hope she comes around and if not maybe you can find someone who wants a relationship with you for love. Take care.

Michele

by Michele Rhew on September 14th, 2009 at 1:27 PM

I agree with Dharma. If it was just an issue of coming out what Michele spoke of could begin take hold. She could make a choice between happiness and living her life in fear. The fact that she is leaving makes the situation all the more difficult and painful and you should not dwell on false hope. Give those who love and support you a chance to help you through this if you decide to end it.
Hugs,
Amy

by fashionistaonfire22 on September 28th, 2009 at 2:26 PM

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