Comments on: TLL Q & A Advice Panel Installment #43 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2009/11/24/tll-q-a-advice-panel-installment-43/ Mon, 21 May 2012 19:48:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Tara http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/2009/11/24/tll-q-a-advice-panel-installment-43/comment-page-1/#comment-5635 Tara Wed, 25 Nov 2009 16:45:48 +0000 http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/?p=5080#comment-5635 Excellent feedback, ladies! I've experienced LBD in 3 relationships -- one with a man! It seems inevitable in LTRs. The critical questions you posed are the key to it all -- what caused the lack of intimacy? My therapist once asked a great question, "Is your life better with her, or without her?" In the last instance, I could still honestly say, WITH her! That put the LBD in perspective. If love, and trust, and respect and friendship is still there, AND a desire to be together, then no problem. I am a strong advocate of therapy - couples therapy, too. Most times it takes a 'disinterested' professional to help us find our way.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5635','Tara'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5635','Tara','Excellent feedback, ladies! I\'ve experienced LBD in 3 relationships -- one with a man! It seems inevitable in LTRs. The critical questions you posed are the key to it all -- what caused the lack of intimacy? My therapist once asked a great question, \"Is your life better with her, or without her?\" In the last instance, I could still honestly say, WITH her! That put the LBD in perspective. If love, and trust, and respect and friendship is still there, AND a desire to be together, then no problem.\r\n\r\nI am a strong advocate of therapy - couples therapy, too. Most times it takes a \'disinterested\' professional to help us find our way.'); return false;">Quote</a></div> Excellent feedback, ladies! I’ve experienced LBD in 3 relationships — one with a man! It seems inevitable in LTRs. The critical questions you posed are the key to it all — what caused the lack of intimacy? My therapist once asked a great question, “Is your life better with her, or without her?” In the last instance, I could still honestly say, WITH her! That put the LBD in perspective. If love, and trust, and respect and friendship is still there, AND a desire to be together, then no problem.

I am a strong advocate of therapy – couples therapy, too. Most times it takes a ‘disinterested’ professional to help us find our way.

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