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I have always dreamed of a traditional wedding, a traditional engagement. But the way I always assumed it would be was me proposing to my girlfriend. Even as a young child I would dream of having to speak with my fiance to be’s father and ask for her hand in marriage. It was something that I thought about just as much as a straight young girl would think about proposal, her wedding.

But for years I assumed it was just wishful thinking, whimsical fantasies. I pushed those dreams of childhood away. I am sure that those dreams were suppressed because the traditional family acceptance was not something that my journey had in store for me. Without family support, much of the dreams that are fed by a family became something that I was sure was lost with my family. It is amazing how much your family’s acceptance can suppress things that you held of value that they taught you, almost like every thing that they taught you must vanish with them.

Enter The Love of My Life – What an amazing woman. When she walked into my life, nothing would ever be the same. All of the things that I had wanted as a child suddenly became real again. All the hopes of a family of my own, the way it had to be for me suddenly became excitingly clear.

My girl and I started talking about the dreams of my past, having children, getting married, buying a house. My desire to build a family of my own suddenly seemed possible. So I did what felt natural, I asked her to spend the rest of her life with me, and prayed that I would spend the rest of mine standing next to her. I got down on bended knee. It felt just as I had hoped it would, with tears of joy and the excitement of tomorrow, uttered with just one word “yes”.

Since this we have talked about the wedding the wheres, the whens, the who’s and the who not’s. It feels so right.

In telling people, we have had so much acceptance, her step brother got engaged at around the same time. And when we went to pops house for Christmas all of her pops friends congratulated us as I had always thought it would be.

The fight for my right to marry was a fight within myself. Our community has so much that we have to do to make this a reality for us. For me the reality is within me, within my love for my fiance, and within the love and acceptance of our family. I was blessed with such an amazing woman, who gave me the strength to remember my dreams and allows me the strength everyday to obtain those goals together.

I love you BB.