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Coming out as a lesbian is the most liberating and empowering thing that a person who is in the closet can do. It is a process of both exploring one’s identity and true self.  For me, coming out was a difficult road  to travel with a few speed bumps.  Although it was an exciting adventure, there were many things that I didn’t understand and had to learn through experience.

One of the first things that I came to realize is there are as many stereotypes and prejudices within the LGBT community as there are anywhere else. Finding yourself within the gay community can become difficult with all of the different labels and groups that lesbians have placed upon each other.  I had to learn to stop trying to fit in and just start being myself and to hell if anyone didn’t like it. We already face enough shit as it is to have to deal with prejudice and ridicule by people who know first hand how it feels to be a minority.  I thought I would be welcomed and not chastised for not being “hard enough”, “stud enough”, “femme enough”. You get the gist of it. I don’t have a problem with you defining yourself with whatever it is you want to be, but just don’t place those constraints on others.

Lesbians come in all shapes, sizes, colors, backgrounds, and personalities. So stop allowing these labels to define who we are as people. We are unique, intelligent individuals in our own right that are diverse and beautiful.  I feel that all of the labels are attempting to place me in a box, and if I decide to step outside that box, then others may have something negative to say. But let’s face it, if I wanted to stay locked up in a box and not be myself then I wouldn’t have came out in the first place! We should support one another! Don’t let our own feel like outcasts; we already get enough of that from the ignorant close minded people in our world.

Written By: KD and Bella

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