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About 3 years ago I was in a serious relationship that ended. It did not end on bad terms, it was because I loved her so much that I had to let her go…it was the hardest thing I have ever had to do.

About a year and a half ago we started talking again. Not as anything more than friends and it was really nice to have certain parts of her back in my life again. And then she dropped a bomb. She informed me that she was moving to another state to be with a woman she had strong feelings for (she never uses the word LOVE). I was devistated. I didn’t not think that would happen, but it did and it took me a long time to come to terms with the situation. I was so upset because at the peak of our relationship I had an opportunity to move to another state for my job and when the idea was presented to her, she informed me that as much as she cares for me, she will NEVER move to another state for a person. OUCH!!! Because that’s exactly what she did. I finally accepted the situation and decided it was a good thing. I would finally be able to get over her and move on with my life now that she was so far away.

Things did not work out for her once she moved away. She was having trouble finding work and they were fighting all the time. She was alone. And then her grandmother passed away and she returned. It was suppose to be just for a little while to help her parents (who are considerable older parents…almost 70) out. She never moved back and obviously that relationship ended. Because I was close to her family I was there for her and her parents while they coped with their loss. We started talking and haning out once again, but this time it seemed different. I finally felt like this was a true friendship and I was finally over her!!!

Yesterday I got an invitation from one of her friends to attend her 30th birthday party. I could not access the location, date and time on the invite so I contacted my ex and asked her to forward the information to me, which she did…along with another bomb. She wanted me to know ahead of time that she is seeing someone and that person will be there soI needed to make sure I could handle that if I decided to go. Ok, great…thanks for the heads up. Wait for it…then she informs me that she is dating a guy…WTF?!?!?

I am so devistated!!! I am so confused!!! If you knew my ex you would be too. She is not bisexual!!! She LOVES women more than I do and I love them a lot!!! I know I am not the only person to feel this way or be in this situation. I guess I am hoping someone out there has a few words of advice or a suggestion on how to move on.

Guest post sent in by: Lost in LA
Age: 32
Location: California