2010
GUEST POST: Ms
I have 2 children , the ex , now has ‘ paperwork’ that gives her equal parent status and rites but no parental responsibility. Because she pushed for it.
We never had any civil ceremony just lived together for 14 years.
So thereby creating and magnifying 2 radically different roles under the blanket of ‘ equality’.
I have to pull them from their beds, get them to school on time. feed and clothe them, the ex swings by once a fortnight, takes them away, over stimulates them, feeds them rubbish, and brings them back knackered.
I want my children to grow up into adults of the fantastic little people they are but the part time fortnigtly sitter just spoils them and doesn’t legally have to spend a penny on them other than she chooses to.
Surely there are many more sitting where I sit faced with this ‘ hole’ in the law.
Welcome to the often frustrating world of co-parenting with your ex! Did your ex adopt the kids? If not, I don’t understand how she has any legal standing at all. Unless the courts are doing this for the benefit of the children. Do they like there fun frenzy time with the ex?
This is such a typical situation and I’ve seen many a woman get through it. Is there any chance you can sit down and talk with your ex about the kids’ welfare and how you see her visits affecting that welfare? Do you think the kids will benefit from an on-going relationship with the ex? Eventually, the ex may grow weary of this kind of connection and fade away.
Best of luck to you and the kids.