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Hi Alexa, I read your post. I don’t believe that you are gay if you are still into men. You may be curious. Its is perfectly healthy to be attracted to the opposite sex from time to time. Feeling a sexual attraction to a woman does not necessarily define our sexuality. Before you make any life altering decisions to sleep with or experience a woman, it may be good for you to consider how that experience may effect you and your future relationships. Also, I must warn you I have been dating women exclusively for a few years and woman are not as forgiving and understanding as most heterosexuals think us to be. the best advise I can give you is to be very honest with the woman you experiment with.

Hey Alexa,

I had a similar experience from what you explained. I dated guys through high school and college, never was lacking in them either, I always had a date for an event or a steady beau (sorry I love that word!!). They all ended due to me leaving the guy because I just wasn’t happy or fulfilled in the relationship, usually sexually fulfilled. After breaking up with my best friend, I decided to further test the waters of my bi-sexuality and openly date women. It was such an awakening to me!! I was a completely different person, in a good way. I have since settled down into my first lesbian relationship and here I am 7 months later. So I know I am still learning, you do in every relationship, but just thought it may give you comfort to know that there are other women out there that similarly experienced what you are going through and found their happiness. All the best to you in your explorations!!

I do not agree with LuvDali as forgiving or life changing experience has nothing to do with your sexuality.

The emphasis should be put on your own words: ” i’ve had sexual fantasies about women all my life. the female body turns me on”. Don’t you think the answer is staring in your face?

If you have doubts about your current choices then maybe you should think about what you just said – : “it doesn’t feel right”. And I think it says more than you can imagine. I dated guys and hell, I almost got married to one, but it never, and I repeat, never felt right till I met my first girl. Suddenly, everything changed. I felt complete, emotionally and sexually satisfied. It finally felt right.

I am not saying that you are gay but how are you going to find out if you do not give it a try? However, here is my advise. Never get involved with a girl just because you want to try and figure things out. Wait for the right moment. And I am saying that because we women are more emotional and everything we do is based on what we feel. First sexual encounter should be with somebody you really like and not with somebody who is willing to do it with you. You might experience emotional hangover if it is just a sexual experience.

I don’t think you have to have sex with a woman to know if you are attracted to her. There should actually be an attraction before the clothes come off.