2011
Me, Her, Plus 2
Latona and I met almost a year ago. It was a very unlikely match. She worked as a message therapist at a medical office I frequently visited for my back problem. I would see her for treatment and we would chat about our week or weekend, and that was it. I thought she was someone very cool that I could get to know and become good friends with, if management allowed for patients and therapists to spend time together outside the office. At one point, I asked her if this was allowed, since the place seemed to combine fun and professionalism very well. She said it wasn’t a problem. So, a couple of visits later, I conjured up the nerve to ask her out for a drink. She said yes and I thought, great!
On the day we planned to meet, she sent me a text saying a couple of her friends were in town and she hadn’t seen them in a while, would it be O.K if they joined us. To be honest, I was disappointed about not having one-on-one time, but fell back on my usual thought of “the more the merrier.” Besides, this wasn’t a date. I’m a very social person who likes to expand her circle of friends. Over a pitcher of sangria and food (turned out to be dinner AND drinks) I asked her, “So what’s your story?” “Are you dating someone?” “Married?” With a flirtatious smile she said, “I’m not with anyone.” I told her I was surprised to hear that. As the conversation progressed, she said to me, “I’m a lesbian.” I took it very nonchalant.
You see, I am an open-minded individual with friends of all colors, shapes, sizes, and backgrounds. Needless to say, I wasn’t shocked to hear her say this. Thing is up until I met her I did not consider myself a lesbian, I did not see her as my “type” even if I was, and I had not been with another woman, and I certainly wasn’t looking for a relationship. At the time, I was in an estranged marriage…to a man. Since then, I’ve separated from him and filing for divorce – both having nothing to do with me meeting a special woman. I opened myself up to a relationship with her and it was an amazing time. We were not without our share of conflicts of course, but it’s the happiest I’ve ever been. Through much deliberation, this relationship recently ended, and I find myself a bit lost, sad, and remembering our “first date” in June of last year – Me, her, plus two.
Sent in by: Anonymous
Age: 31
Location: NY, NY
