2011
Inexpereinced and wanting to satisfy
I have always thought of myself as bi-sexual, but the right woman never came along. I have only ever had long term relationships (so far men only) but they have never worked out (putting pillows in the way so that they are deterred from trying it on seems to work quite well). Just for the record, I connect to personalities, but have never considered a man attractive, it’s always been women, I don’t want to label myself as anything too prematurely but I am almost certain I am gay, not bi. Anyway, up until Wednesday last week I was in a three and a half year relationship with a man. I have a massive crush on a female friend of mine but she has a girlfriend (long distance) but she feels the same. She may pick to stay with her girlfriend, which is fine as I want her to be happy and make the right choice, not just rush into a lustful decision. However, if she does choose me (fingers crossed) I am massively concerned I wont know what the hell to do to satisfy her. I have considered going out with the intention to umm… build my experience but all I want is her and it would feel like I was emotionally cheating on her. I am aware we are not together, but there are two issues, 1) it’s not very me to go have one night stands and 2) I don’t want to hurt her as I would be doing it for her so it would be stupid. She says I will know what to do, and I think about doing it all the time, but I really don’t want to mess this up. I’m falling hard for her and I want to be able to show her how much she means to me. I want to make her knees weak – for want of less of a cliche! Any tips/help/advise? Also, I know that we will both need time to cool down and get over our previous relationships as I don’t want this to go wrong for such silly reasons, but I don’t think I could stop myself when we are finally able to touch each other. I am so connected with her. When I say ‘crush’ it is because it’s the easiest word to use as I do not want to say more as I have just come out of a relationship and although I haven’t loved him in quite a while (one-two years) I don’t want to rush this with my girl. Help?
Sent in by: Anonymous
Age: 24
Location: UK
You will not need experience in this situation. If the connection is just as strong as you say it is, the very touch from you will make her knees weak. Just explore her. Or Hell, maybe she can be your teacher (that is always thrilling). She’s not gonna judge you for inexperience. If anything it’ll turn her on even more. If you have had sex with men, you will definately know how with women. Its all about going with your heart anyway.