2011
Please help…
Yeah I’ve never been this desperate but I really need yalls help.. I’ve been In love with this girl for four years now, and she has felt the same. Problem is, she broke up with me beacuse she doesn’t want this “lifestyle.” Another catch, we couldn’t stay away from each other. So for three years i have gone through her wavering between dating guys and dating me. We have been exclusive as of late, but now she just went on a date with some dude. So now I’m dealing with her dating a dude and it’s killing me. She is still in love with me and I am in love with her, but she said we can’t be together because of the lifestyle thing. I’m 22 and she is my first love. I don’t want to move on even though I know I need to. I don’t know what to do. I’m scared of life without her. I’m so in love with her it’s unreal. What we have is unreal. Nothing in me wants to let that go. I keep holding on to the tiny shred of hope that she will see the light and realize that “we” are more important to her than the damn lifestyle. What the hell am I supposed to do? I’m only out to a few people, so I don’t have anyone to talk to about it. I feel trapped in my feelings for her. I’m so lost. I feel like I’m the only one going through this kind of unique situation. I need help 
Sent in by: Amy
Age: 22
Hi, I read your question and just wanted to give a little advice. I know how it is when you are in love with someone, especially your first love. I was in a relationship for 7 years and she was my best friend. We did everything together so I was a mess when we broke up. I think that she loves you but she is having a struggle with accepting her “life style”. Some people struggle all of their lives, and they eventually have to make a choice. I believe that you should probably give her some time so that she can figure out what she wants. Its not fair to you and its not fair to her. The more she keeps going back and forth the more it will break your heart. Give her some time and then also take a break from dating yourself. You deserve someone who will love you, and you dont want to have to always worry about them leaving you because they arent comfortable with who they are.
Good Luck…