TLL’s Mission

Since 2004 The Lesbian Lifestyles’ mission has been a simple one. This blog was created to collect the real life stories written by lesbians from around the world. The TLL authors share stories from their lives in the name of allowing our readers to see just how alike, and sometimes different we all are. Many of our stories have a great deal to do with our sexual orientation, but the topics that are covered span several genres. At TLL you will find a vast collection of stories to read, relate to, and enjoy.

What kind of stories is TLL Looking for?

• Topics of the month responses
• Fiction
• Nonfiction
• Poetry
• Coming out stories
• Essays
• Top 10 lists
• Embarrassing moments
• Music, Movie, book reviews
• Politics
• Family, Friends, Children

TLL is also a great way to promote your blog, lesbian community, or anything else that you think our readers may be interested in.

TLL takes pride in being a safe space for people from around the world to write on issues affecting women, the queer community, themselves, etc. While we welcome all types of opinions, this is a hate free space. Any comments or posts with hateful language, and homophobic/transphobic/heterophobic ect. speech will be deleted and the authors permission to post on TLL revoked. We embrace all members of the queer community and their gender and orientation identities, and will not tolerate hatred on the blog via posts or comments.

The Lesbian Lifestyle has contributors from around the world. Some of our registered authors are located in China, the UK, and Germany just to name a few. We hope to prove that no matter what your color, race, or sexuality we are all human before we are anything else. TLL gives lesbians a chance to read about the lives of other lesbians, and it gives heterosexuals a peek into the reality of our lives, opinions, and every day concerns.

The TLL writers continually focus on a wide variety of topics. They cover small every day events as well as larger issues, and how they effect being a lesbian in today’s society. Each month the authors will tackle one to three topics posted by the TLL’s editor. They can chose to post about one or all of the topics. TLL also encourages blog authors to share posts from their own personal blogs. This gives them a chance to promote their blog and not over extend their writing duties. We love to get topic suggestions from our readers so if you have one please feel free to send it our way.

TLL also incorporates a few reoccurring posts into is collection of stories. Five TLL authors contribute to TLL’s Advice Panel. TLL’s managing editor reviews GLBT movies in the Goldstar Review. Resident sex toy reviewer, Carnivalesq, gives her take on a variety of sex toys, books, and videos.

The Lesbian Lifestyles goal is to become the largest lesbian storyteller blog on the Internet. We have been around since 2004, we have over 400 registered authors, and over 1200 posts. We are well on our way to reaching that goal and would love for you to come along for the ride.

Whether you’re feeling happy, confused, or indifferent you’re bound to find a little bit of every emotion here. As editor of this blog I have worked hard to make TLL a place where you can feel at home. TLL takes pride in being a blog where you can read posts that let you know you’re not alone.

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Would you like to become an author on The Lesbian Lifestyle blog?

Do you feel you could tackle the monthly topics and contribute creative posts on TLL that represent who you are as a lesbian? Are you a lesbian who wants to share her stories with the world? If you answered yes to any of these questions then TLL just may be for you. Feel free to visit the TLL FAQ’s to get more information on becoming an author, or click here* to register to become an author on The Lesbian Lifestyle blog instantly.

* Due to bot registrations all suspicious email addresses will be discarded and not approved. If you have registered and were declined please email me directly and I will supply you with further details.

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Who Runs The Lesbian Lifestyle Blog?

Well that’s a fantastic question now isn’t it! My name is Kelly Leszczynski and I am the Managing Editor of The Lesbian Lifestyle Blog. I like to stay behind the scenes for the most part, but I post under the screen name Goldstardyke on occasion. I’ve been blogging since 2003 in various forms. I started TLL as a way to bring women together and to share our stories as women who identify as lesbians.

TLL does a great job of running itself. With over 200 contributing authors I pretty much just have to sit back and maintain things to make sure every thing continues to look pretty and works on the back end. I honestly couldn’t ask for an easier job. I have been running TLL since 2004 and have met several wonderful women over the past few years because of this blog.

In the real world I’m a Project Manager for an IT company. I’m thirty something, in a wonderful relationship, love to write, and have a personal blog called Brain Clouds. If you ever have any questions or concerns about TLL please feel free to drop me a line. I try my best to get back to all emails ASAP.

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TLL’s FAQ

1. Why is this blog called The Lesbian “Lifestyle?” Being a lesbian is not a choice nor is it a lifestyle!

I’ve gotten some flack over the years for the title of this blog. I suppose when I chose the word “Lifestyle” I was thinking about your life stories, the lives we lead, and the mannerisms in which we lead them. What I can tell you I wasn’t doing was labeling homosexuality as a lifestyle choice. I don’t feel that way, nor do I believe that one’s sexuality is in any way a choice.

2. What types of posts are you looking for on TLL?

TLL is looking for entries written in a story/essay format.

A bad example of a post would be. “Today I woke up and my girlfriend was hogging the bed. Then I ate breakfast, went to work, and had to deal with a boss who hates gays.”

We are looking for more essay style posts. Mostly we are looking for snip-its from your life, in your city, with your friends and families. We want the readers of TLL to be able to relate to your posts and know that they are not alone. We want to focus on issues that are “lesbian only” as well as broader issues that effect women from all over the world. We are not just a sexuality. TLL wants to demonstrate that we are women of all colors, shapes, and diverse backgrounds.

An acceptable post would be one that reads like a story or an autobiography. TLL is looking for description and true emotion within all posts. The best advise I can give you is to tell your stories as vividly and honestly as you possibly can. First person, third person, it doesn’t matter. Write what comes natural to you when describing moments from your life.

TLL does NOT censor any posts submitted. However we cannot tolerate posts that promote hate.

3. How frequently will blog authors be expected to post?

We realize that not every day contains something significant to write about. As a matter of fact those lazy days where nothing much happens are the best! But if something does happen that you feel that you would like to share, and that others would benefit from reading, please post. We will not put a minimum or maximum number to author posts at this time.

4. Do the authors have to be out?

Sure don’t! After all, I’m sure there will be many visitors that aren’t out either. They will learn from other’s stories. Our stance on sexual identity is this… If you have loved a women and you have a story about it, than we would love to read it. Out, in, semi-out, no matter where you are in the stages of finding out who you are you are accepted at TLL.

5. Are writers allowed to be anonymous?

You can add as much or as little information to your account as you would like.

6. Is there an age requirement?

No. I can remember when I was 14 and had no one to talk to about my sexuality. I wish they had something like this then. All ages welcome.

7. How do I register and post on TLL?

Click here for directions how

8. Is there a post format?

All posts should have a title. All posts should be creatively written. By creative I mean think different. Try to come up with new ways to tell stories that have already been told. You should also chose a category/s for your post as well as using your personal avatar or the TLL Default avatar.

9. I forgot my password. How do I reset it?

To reset your password go to the TLL homepage and click on REGISTER. It’s located on the upper right hand corner of the page. At the bottom of that page click on LOST YOUR PASSWORD?. It will then ask for your user name and or the email address you used to register as an author on TLL. Enter one of the two and then click GET NEW PASSWORD.

WordPress will then email you a temporary password to log in with. You can change the temporary password by logging on to TLL with the temporary password. From the word press dashboard click on PROFILE, which is located at the top right hand side of the screen. Scroll all the way down to New Password: and fill in the open fields to make the change.

10. How do I get one of those cute little avatars/pictures next to my posts?

It’s easy! Just send me a pic you would like to use and I will add it to the author file. Make sure the pic you chose looks good at 80×80 pixels. Then when you submit a post just make sure to chose your avatar which will be listed under your user name.

11. How do I get a cute little Gavatar next to my name when I post a comment?

That ones just as easy. Go to the Gravatar website, register, and poof you have a Gravatar all your own. It will automatically populate when you leave a comment using the email you signed up to Gravatar with.

12. Why does the Editor review my post before it’s published?

There are a few reasons for this. When I review the posts I give them a quick spell check so we needn’t have the grammar police knocking on our door. I will also add categories to your post, if you haven’t already, to help out the “similar post” feature we are now using. Also, and most importantly, anyone can register to post on TLL which has it’s good and bad points. To avoid any hate posts coming through I have opted to take a sneak peek at all the posts before they go live.

13. Why must you have ads on TLL?

It helps pay the hosting bill. It also helped pay for the new TLL template that launched in April of 2008. TLL is happy to offer up free ad space to non profit organizations. If you represent a non profit organization and would like to advertise to the readers of TLL please email The Editor.

14. I have a film, book, CD, or event that I would like to see on the Goldstar Review or announced on TLL. Where do I send the promotional materials?

Please send me and email with the details and I will follow up with your request ASAP.