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“Ooh, but I still smell her.” - Lt. Col. Frank Slade in “Scent of a Woman” (1992)
It’s her skin in the mornings that smells of rain and lemons.
It’s her favorite perfume behind her ear mixing with the soapy clean of her shampoo.
It’s the smell of sun and coconuts on her back in summer.
It’s the whisper [...]

I know where my eye goes first – to the rockstar bad girl, the edgy dyke with her short, spiky hair and larger than life attitude. She’s got tattoos and piercings; maybe her hair is bleached or dyed some outrageous color. She captivates her audience and works the room with a confident [...]

Ahhh… the look of a woman. From her head to her toes, as a whole, or focusing on specific parts of her body….god.. it’s like watching a sunset and being able to freeze it at the peak of it’s beauty and just feel that hummm in your chest letting you know this… is something amazing.
It’s [...]

I’ve never been one to really care about the assumptions people tend to make about me based on their visual assessment of who I am. Now, don’t get it twisted, if someone passes me on the street, I would like to think that they find me attractive and even that they might think about having [...]

Neither of us, damnit!!!
Loverbunny’s post about transmen sparked a thought in me. Actually, a pet peeve that occurs almost weekly. Partner and I have been together for almost 4 years. Neither of us falls into one particular category of dyke. She may be a little more femme than me, but I wouldn’t classify myself as [...]

I was reading Savage Love the other day and there was a letter about the new thing: Transmen. Lesbians who go through most steps toward a sex change, but don’t always get the complete operation. Once they have a “M” on their driver’s license and birth certificate instead of a “F” states like California allow [...]

Who’s the stud? Who’s the femme? Who’s on top? Who’s wearing the dildo? Who’s dominant and who’s submissive? Am I an aggressive femme or a soft stud? Why can’t we be friends? And why are we still friends, even after our horrible breakup?
The sexual politics of lesbians can be quite complicated. A woman is a [...]

I am stuck with one of the Queer Film Festival sessions in mind. It’s called “Who’s on top?” and it has me pondering and knotted up.
I lure you into the women’s toilets and into a free cubicle; lucky for you the cinema’s are full, packed with people too busy munching on popcorn and slurping on [...]