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I’ve never been one to really care about the assumptions people tend to make about me based on their visual assessment of who I am. Now, don’t get it twisted, if someone passes me on the street, I would like to think that they find me attractive and even that they might think about having [...]

Neither of us, damnit!!!
Loverbunny’s post about transmen sparked a thought in me. Actually, a pet peeve that occurs almost weekly. Partner and I have been together for almost 4 years. Neither of us falls into one particular category of dyke. She may be a little more femme than me, but I wouldn’t classify myself as [...]

I was reading Savage Love the other day and there was a letter about the new thing: Transmen. Lesbians who go through most steps toward a sex change, but don’t always get the complete operation. Once they have a “M” on their driver’s license and birth certificate instead of a “F” states like California allow [...]

Who’s the stud? Who’s the femme? Who’s on top? Who’s wearing the dildo? Who’s dominant and who’s submissive? Am I an aggressive femme or a soft stud? Why can’t we be friends? And why are we still friends, even after our horrible breakup?
The sexual politics of lesbians can be quite complicated. A woman is a [...]

I am stuck with one of the Queer Film Festival sessions in mind. It’s called “Who’s on top?” and it has me pondering and knotted up.
I lure you into the women’s toilets and into a free cubicle; lucky for you the cinema’s are full, packed with people too busy munching on popcorn and slurping on [...]

I guess I can be considered “butch”. I’m usually not one for labels, but labels find their way to be attached to me anyway. This is not a post about the politics of the butch and femme dichotomy, being or not being. It’s an issue that bothers me every now and then, and lately it [...]

Sometimes, out of the blue, the thought will hit me that I will be single forever. Usually being single doesn’t bother me overly, but in these moments of stark realization, I am saddened and pulled down by the thought.
I try to figure out why I’m continually single and can never come up with an obvious [...]

This is to be one of my devices less poetic. Those of you who have been following the style of my posts… This isn’t quite it. I was inspired by the previous post, and when commenting, felt I should just take up space on the main page instead. So this is the “butchfemme not quite [...]